not having read the entire thread, that said:
Female and male surgeons should possess many of the same personality traits (which are likely held by other medical professionals and non-med people). Though it's true gender plays a role (subconscious or otherwise), at the end of the day, a surgeon is a physician and a human being. Be reasonable, confident, humble, decent...and yes, calm. Absolutely calm. Be good at what you do, and nice to people, and you'll likely be respected; in many ways, this trumps gender and profession, at least in the long run.
Don't under any circumstances bully a nurse. They actually run the OR, and are an integral part of the team necessary in providing excellent care. I suppose the surgeon can be viewed as "captain" of a team (for that single procedure), emphasis on TEAM and not CAPTAIN. The roll of the captain is to help things run smoothly. Thus, everyone on that team should be met with respect and professionalism (that's not to say one cannot critique when necessary, but do so tactfully). Truth is, the OR doesn't run without the nurses, and a surgeon who thinks otherwise will shortly find themselves in hot water. It's a team sport, which means respect and trust are paramount to success.
On that note, a female surgeon who is untoward nurses is uncouth and especially unattractive (I suppose one could argue that there is a bit of a double-standard here). All the more reason not to be an ass. Just do your job, know your stuff, don't be a pain, and be decent...
EDIT: having read thread briefly, appears the focus isn't so much on the original question. My bad!
