I think it's (unfortunately) fairly common for minorities to get that kind of response to being accepted to a professional program. I'm Latina and have had several people assume that my ethnicity helped me get in- which really ticks me off. I worked hard throughout my academic career just like everyone else! I deserve it just as much as anyone! Geez. Mostly I think it's bitterness/jealousy and should be politely ignored.
I don't do that very often. the stakes were also higher though (already told work I was quitting, already moving, no plan B etc.) which may have contributed. With other goals, including Tevis it's kind of an "eh - try again nexct year" - especially because I live in the area. In fact when I DID finish Tevis it was on my second try - so not nearly as much anticipation wrapped up in it, which may be similar to getting accpeted in after 2 rounds of application (but I dont' know - guessing here).
I thought I would be apathetic about the whole thing.....but then when it actually came down to the wire, 3 days or so before they started notifications, and then when I actually found out, I was shocked how it affected me physically (excitement, nerves, sick, pounding heart etc.). You might be suprised once it gets really really REALLY close.
Or you might not! ANd that's fine to. Some of my really big goals in life I reached and then it was just like "OK", and not much else. When I finished Tevis (a 100 mile horse race I had been dreaming about for 10 years), I was so focused that I wasn't really excited, and then once I did finish, I was so sick and tired it was anticlamatic. Even now, it's hard for me to get excited about that accomplishment - so much work went into it, and when I talk to people about it (people come up to me a lot and say "I heard you finished TEVIS!!!") it's hard for me to know how to respond. The excitement is more personal - like when I see a full moon and the weather turns warm - there's a surge of adrenaline - but not so much contemplating the event of actually REACHING MY GOAL.
Vet school could have turned out the same way, but I'm happy that I was able to be all giddy and silly about it.
I'll be happy, for sure... but it will definitely be a quieter sort of happy than most people are probably expecting.
Definitely! Perhaps I should have been more specific and mentioned that it does happen to people of all races and ages, etc. at one time or another. It's just annoying to have all your hard work devalued!
Hey squib, couldn't find a chicken, so I guess a turkey will do.
I was so on edge when the initial decisions came out, and I suspect if I'd gotten in outright, there would've been that standard screaming phone call response. Instead, I've spent the past month and a half knowing it'll probably happen, everybody and their mother knows, and the "OMG" factor really isn't there anymore. Being waitlisted kinda stole my thunder.
Some of these responses people are hearing are mind-boggling.
) Where will you put your stuff over the summer? (Storage unit like last year?) You won't be able to go to Germany! (Yes, I will. I already told the interviewer that I needed 2 weeks off to visit family abroad.)"
Guess I can say goodbye to her hiring me when I graduate....Totally annoying to have someone take a dump on your accomplishment/excitement right out of the gate.I just keep telling myself to keep calm and composed and not stoop to that level. What's even more confusing is she knew Davis was my first choice and wrote me a recommendation AND she regularly refers clients to Davis as well. It's like the only reason she supports me going to Davis is because it's IS for me and the cheapest option. The other vet has been very happy for me though, so that's been nice. The main vet I work with basically thinks Davis vets have their heads up their a***es when they graduate and are completely incompetent. The first thing she said when I told her I got in was "you best keep your feet on the ground, don't let them make you think you're God's gift to this earth". Apparently she has had really bad experiences working with recent Davis grads and actually fired a few about 10 years ago in succession. She basically made it seem like she thought I'd be more competent if I went somewhere else....
Also, it amazes me how little some techs know about the vets they work with. I can't count how many times I've heard, "so how long is vet school again?" shouldn't you have some idea of what your bosses have done to get to where they're at? It almost makes it seem like some have no idea why the "DR." is in front of their name...
The main vet I work with basically thinks Davis vets have their heads up their a***es when they graduate and are completely incompetent. The first thing she said when I told her I got in was "you best keep your feet on the ground, don't let them make you think you're God's gift to this earth". Apparently she has had really bad experiences working with recent Davis grads and actually fired a few about 10 years ago in succession. She basically made it seem like she thought I'd be more competent if I went somewhere else....
Also, it amazes me how little some techs know about the vets they work with. I can't count how many times I've heard, "so how long is vet school again?" shouldn't you have some idea of what your bosses have done to get to where they're at? It almost makes it seem like some have no idea why the "DR." is in front of their name...
I've been pretty fortunate in the support category. The most annoying part has been the question of my SO, actually!
"Well he's going with you."
"No, he isn't."
"WHAT??!"
And then I attempt to explain the fact that he'd need to, you know, find a job paying at least what he's making now in a big city and get a work permit and then find a job for when I have to come home over summers and...it's not worth it. But people pushing it is like wait, are YOU in this relationship or am I?
I've been pretty fortunate in the support category. The most annoying part has been the question of my SO, actually!
"Well he's going with you."
"No, he isn't."
"WHAT??!"
And then I attempt to explain the fact that he'd need to, you know, find a job paying at least what he's making now in a big city and get a work permit and then find a job for when I have to come home over summers and...it's not worth it. But people pushing it is like wait, are YOU in this relationship or am I?
I did LOL at a lot of these, though. This is one of the reasons I love SDN - because people can commiserate and are knowledgable about what going to vet school means!
Love SDN haha!I'm jealous of you all who get to take your SOs.
Everyone asks "What will you guys DO?"
Well we figure if we really want to get married then he'll try not to feel neglected and I'll try not to be a B**** and to make time for calling and we will both try to be good about visiting.
I mean I hope that someday he will move to Mizzou also but he wants to stay at his job for now getting great experience and then he will choose his grad school. I wouldn't want him to go to a subpar grad school just to be by me. That won't do our future any good and I wouldn't have wanted him to pressure me to go somewhere I didn't want to, to stay by him.
I don't know what they expect me to say, "Well we figure we'll just break up after 3 years of being completely happy. We prefer that over long distance. I'll just find someone else to marry"
