If a guy(gal) doc gets divorced, the other person should not have the same lifestyle b/c the doc will not have the same lifestyle either b/c now you have two expense of everything.
But the other person should not have to retrain and get a real job either.
As an EM doc, we make 300K+/yr creating a nice lifestyle where the spouse adds little $$$. My wife is a nurse, could easily make 100k/yr but at a big family cost and after taxes will pull in 65k/yr which is pittance over me just working another shift a month.
I would not expect her to have to get a real job to support her/kids.
There is a happy medium but requires 2 mature adults who understand an amicable divorce is better for all sides especially kids.
If we divorced and I was making 200k/yr, I think it would be very fair for me to pay the kids expenses until they get out of college just as I would pre divorce. Also fair for me to support my spouse until kids get into college. I would have to work more but that is the cost of divorce.
After college is done, wife needs to find a job and I would be happy to send 5k/month until she hits retirement.
Divorce is expensive. Don't get married unless you know what/who you are getting involved with. If they are bat crazy but married b/c they are hot, then you are buying into a bat crazy fat/lazy 40 yr old getting ready for a divorce battle. Decisions have consequences.