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I thought it was hilarious that nuns report fewer sexual partners than priests. I mean, who would think of collecting that kind of data?
I'd be curious about the average age of sexual encounters with nuns versus priests myselfI thought it was hilarious that nuns report fewer sexual partners than priests. I mean, who would think of collecting that kind of data?
You beat me to itI'd be curious about the average age of sexual encounters with nuns versus priests myself
Mandatory cheap shot at priests taken, my apologies.
Hehe. It's funny because in practice, I'm actually pretty sexually conservative. E.g. I've never had, and would never consider having, any sort of sexual contact outside of a long-term, committed relationship. I'm also probably one of the straightest girl in the world too Basically since I hit puberty, I was dating with the singular goal of eventual marriage and was therefore incredibly picky and wary. But as I've gotten older, I have realized there are a lot of other ways that people of the opposite sex (and same sex) interact, and that if it doesn't impact me directly I am in no position to judge. In fact, especially with regards to other women, I feel like we need to stand together and not be judgey bitches to each other all the time like we tend to be. We are harder on each other than men ever are - seriously. Women can be the worst misogynists there are...it's really sad.
In fact, especially with regards to other women, I feel like we need to stand together and not be judgey bitches to each other all the time like we tend to be. We are harder on each other than men ever are - seriously. Women can be the worst misogynists there are...it's really sad.
We are actually quite similar in our approach to sex and relationships.
Being nonjudgmental is a great way to live.
Preach it, sister!
Do you think women are the more jealous/judgey sex, or that we're just better at psychological warfare so it seems that we're more jealous/judgey?
I think a lot of the judgey-ness (is that even a word? Well, it is now) comes from all the societal pressures we've been talking about. Women are the gatekeepers to sex, women should be more emotional or committed, women need to be sexy but not slutty, all that stuff....we get very competitive with one another.
Of course, men are subject to similar pressures. I don't mean to insinuate that it is only women who are held to certain standards - I already alluded to some of the sexual performance pressures before. But I think men react to these pressures by trying to build themselves up (often to unrealistic standards, which hurts them) while women react to it by tearing each other down (which in turn also hurts them). Of course, this is completely my opinion. Just based on what I've seen.
Dudes generally don't hate on one another for sexual activity or because of looks. Women, on the other hand, tend to get all up in each other's business and judge one another, which I mostly blame on societal pressures. Women generally don't dress up for men, as the saying goes, but rather, for other women.Makes a lot of sense. There's so much pressure on us to live up to the sexy yet virginal standard that we lash out at one another.
To add to what you're saying, there's even a double standard for competitive behavior. When women are competitive and cutthroat, it's somehow even more unseemly than when men are. You just expect women to want to help each other, 'cause we're supposed to be nurturing and social and compassionate, but some women aren't like that and they shouldn't be called "bitchy" for it.
There's some research I'll try and dig up in the morning on this, but basically traits that are traditionally masculine are seen as negatives in females and positive in males in the workplace. It's sad, really.You open up a very interesting tangent there. For example, women in the workplace who are more forward/outspoken/competitive are much more likely to be considered "bitchy" than a man who might have similar personality traits and would be praised for being a strong leader.
Believe it or not, there's a lot of people out there of both sexes that remain virgins until marriage. Where you grew up and your family's culture largely determine your views on virginity and remaining chaste until marriage. With my first marriage, my wife was the first woman I'd been with, and it probably would have remained only her had I not chosen so poorly and ended up in an absolutely disastrous nightmare of a relationship.
Then I became a slore, because why not.
Options = temptation. I know girls who have unprotected sex with multiple guys a week and even a couple who do 2-3 a day sometimes. My mind is actually blown at thinking that options don't mean anything. Lot of guys would jump at the opportunity to do the same but good luck....I would think it's much harder for men to abstain till later in life due to sex drive, and because they can enjoy sex without commitment more so than women can. I know plenty of virgins in their 20s. Mostly religious women.
You make it sound like "having options" means you have a higher likelihood of losing your virginity. Not true. I have plenty of options as a woman in my 20s, but I don't partake due to my personal values.
lolnoI don't get why people would suck at sex if it's in a loving relationship. I would think that if two people loved each other madly, it would be hard to mess up. I imagine my wedding day will be mindblowing because there'll be no baggage, there'll be true love, and we'll just take our time...
My friend had a friends with benefits for months. She was a very religious family woman who was married with 4 kids and loved anal sex.obviously those "religious girls" arent religious LOL
If women had equal sex drives as men then men wouldnt be so desperate for sex.Most of these studies are based on self-reporting. Again, women (especially heterosexual women) are taught to repress their sex drives or at least not to talk about them to other people. Women will consistently under-report everything from partner count to masturbation frequency due to this. So I take all that with a grain of salt.
If women had equal sex drives as men then men wouldnt be so desperate for sex.
You sound like you've got a pretty shallow, sad view of people and relationships.Options = temptation. I know girls who have unprotected sex with multiple guys a week and even a couple who do 2-3 a day sometimes. My mind is actually blown at thinking that options don't mean anything. Lot of guys would jump at the opportunity to do the same but good luck....
I spent a long time trying to get a high count and slept with anyone who was average and not necessarily attractive. Maybe 1 in 5 were...
lolno
My friend had a friends with benefits for months. She was a very religious family woman who was married with 4 kids and loved anal sex.
Meh, she could be Christian and a hypocrite.Yeah hustler, if by religious you mean christian?....your friend wasn't if she was cheating on her husband.
Half of the population is like that.You sound like you've got a pretty shallow, sad view of people and relationships.
I feel like guys don't get that having free dick anywhere you look isn't exactly an advantage. It's creepy and kinda scary. Plus it's not like all or even most girls are taking advantage of it. Sure I could catch a different dick every day of the week if:
1. I had no standands
2. I didn't care about my bodily safety/STIs/pregnancy
But that's not exactly something most girls are going to be interested in.
Are you in high school?Of course it's an advantage. You can set your standards high and still get frequent sex. Are you suggesting guys can do the same without paying? Or without being a top tier male?
Meh, if the guy beating me up every day tells me they're a pacifist I don't call them a pacifist and a hypocrite. I call them a bully and a liarMeh, she could be Christian and a hypocrite.
I don't really see anyone trying to be Hercules in bed in this thread.
I'm suggesting that the dating world isn't great for women interested in men.Of course it's an advantage. You can set your standards high and still get frequent sex. Are you suggesting guys can do the same without paying? Or without being a top tier male?
For instance, imagine for every decent potential mr. Tp she meets, tp has to suffer through 800 idiots who idolize jersey shore and the pickupmasterI'm suggesting that the dating world isn't great for women interested in men.
So dudes don't get as many advances as women - well you don't have to scroll through tons of disgusting messages either. Cry me a river.
Meh, if the guy beating me up every day tells me they're a pacifist I don't call them a pacifist and a hypocrite. I call them a bully and a liar
All sin and fall short. Doing so does not make someone not a Christian as far as I know. The fact that it doesn't is kind of the point.Meh, if the guy beating me up every day tells me they're a pacifist I don't call them a pacifist and a hypocrite. I call them a bully and a liar
Yeah,but i think you are at least supposed to feel bad about it and try not to keep doing it.All sin and fall short. Doing so does not make someone not a Christian as far as I know. The fact that it doesn't is kind of the point.
You are, and to be clear I'm not trying to justify her actions at all. I just don't think it's correct to say she's not a Christian (assuming that is the kind of religious hustler was talking about) because of it, because that's not how it works. Basically what tp said - she's a hypocrite for sure.Yeah,but i think you are at least supposed to feel bad about it and try not to keep doing it.
I understand the subtle and sensitive topic here but christianity does require things...a conscious decision to continue doing something contrary to the claim without intention of stopping means you aren't what you claim.You are, and to be clear I'm not trying to justify her actions at all. I just don't think it's correct to say she's not a Christian (assuming that is the kind of religious hustler was talking about) because of it, because that's not how it works. Basically what tp said - she's a hypocrite for sure.
Some of us have inherent struggles we'll likely never overcome. Doesn't make us any less Christian. I'll be a sinner until I die, because that's just the reality of it.I understand the subtle and sensitive topic here but christianity does require things...a conscious decision to continue doing something contrary to the claim without intention of stopping means you aren't what you claim.
I accept that not everyone will agree on thisSome of us have inherent struggles we'll likely never overcome. Doesn't make us any less Christian. I'll be a sinner until I die, because that's just the reality of it.
Can you elaborate in detail what part of my statement is wrong?Are you in high school?
I'm suggesting that the dating world isn't great for women interested in men.
So dudes don't get as many advances as women - well you don't have to scroll through tons of disgusting messages either. Cry me a river.
For instance, imagine for every decent potential mr. Tp she meets, tp has to suffer through 800 idiots who idolize jersey shore and the pickupmaster
Check out engineering faculties. Lots of nerdy average looking guys who are legit husband material (very serious). Of course... females dont really like that do they.
To be fair, napalm isn't very good at destroying structures in general. Unless it's made of wood.Um....almost every single guy I have dated/slept with in my entire life was a engineer. Mostly EEs and ECEs, so not exactly the "bro" civils either. The only two that weren't were a scientific writer and a research biologist. I'm married to a programmer. I like it very much. Go take the "nice guys finish last" wah-wah bull**** somewhere else; it's tiring.
Sidenote - is this what's his face again? Studentpox? Sheesh.
Probably is, in which case I don't even know why I'm trying. Some brick walls you can't even napalm sense into.
To be fair, napalm isn't very good at destroying structures in general. Unless it's made of wood.
Sounds exactly like him.Sidenote - is this what's his face again? Studentpox? Sheesh.
This reminds me of a particularly politically incorrect army running cadenceTo be fair, napalm isn't very good at destroying structures in general. Unless it's made of wood.
Some of us have inherent struggles we'll likely never overcome. Doesn't make us any less Christian. I'll be a sinner until I die, because that's just the reality of it.
CadencesThis reminds me of a particularly politically incorrect army running cadence
napalm,napalm sticks like glue
sticks to women and children to
then we would all call out
napalm sticks to kids
Infantry guys aren't right in the head
I don't think anyone was trying to say it was Christian-likeThere's sinning, and then there's being married with 4 kids and carrying on with an affair for months, lol. That's not Christian-like, whatever way you spin it.
I don't think anyone was trying to say it was Christian-like
My point is that your Christianity isn't revoked because of sin. That's not to say it's ok or that there isn't a responsibility to repent, etc - as I said, I wasn't trying to justify her actions. But if someone says "Hey this Christian I know is involved in this activity that isn't Christian-like" we can say they have lost their way, that they need to stop what they are doing and repent. We don't get to say "Well, they're not really a Christian." That's not our judgment to make and the line between what is or is not forgivable sin is not our line to draw.My mistake. That's the impression I got.
We don't get to say "Well, they're not really a Christian." That's not our judgment to make and the line between what is or is not forgivable sin is not our line to draw.
Anyway, that's what I've always been taught and it's what I believe. Others may not agree.
I'm not saying it wasn't forgivable....I'm saying that while engaging long term in unrepentant sin, they are not christian. They can always choose to repent and address the issueMy point is that your Christianity isn't revoked because of sin. That's not to say it's ok or that there isn't a responsibility to repent, etc - as I said, I wasn't trying to justify her actions. But if someone says "Hey this Christian I know is involved in this activity that isn't Christian-like" we can say they have lost their way, that they need to stop what they are doing and repent. We don't get to say "Well, they're not really a Christian." That's not our judgment to make and the line between what is or is not forgivable sin is not our line to draw.
Anyway, that's what I've always been taught and it's what I believe. Others may not agree.
I disagree, but that's fine. Honest questions though because I'm curious ...How long is long term? Or is it that any time we sin, our Christianity is revoked until we repent, in your opinion?I'm not saying it wasn't forgivable....I'm saying that while engaging long term in unrepentant sin, they are not christian. They can always choose to repent and address the issue
I'm not saying it wasn't forgivable....I'm saying that while engaging long term in unrepentant sin, they are not christian. They can always choose to repent and address the issue