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A somewhat unique issue. Some background:
American born, but with a foreign background. Currently an M3. Mom is a physician. They were very pushy academically, and raised me here to give me a better life. I owe everything to them, and we have an amazing, close relationship. They partly funded my education - particularly my entire first year of school. They still pay for my housing. That said, they have some views I don't agree with.
I was originally going for a very competitive specialty. Made connections, done/doing research etc. After rotating in it and giving it a lot of thought, I've decided to focus on Internal Medicine. I love a lot about it, and really was just all around happier doing that than the other field. Coming to this conclusion took a lot of introspection. My parents, however, were NOT happy to hear this. "I hope you can do something better than that" and "Ugh, the lowest students typically go into that". Everytime I bring it up, they're dismissive and even mean to me and make snide comments like that. They still don't think I'm serious about choosing it.
I've wanted to be a doc my whole life and always have done well. It would crush me not to make them happy in the end. It's really getting me down and making me feel bad about choosing IM as a career (I know it shouldn't). What do I do here to make things better between us? Or is there nothing I can do?
American born, but with a foreign background. Currently an M3. Mom is a physician. They were very pushy academically, and raised me here to give me a better life. I owe everything to them, and we have an amazing, close relationship. They partly funded my education - particularly my entire first year of school. They still pay for my housing. That said, they have some views I don't agree with.
I was originally going for a very competitive specialty. Made connections, done/doing research etc. After rotating in it and giving it a lot of thought, I've decided to focus on Internal Medicine. I love a lot about it, and really was just all around happier doing that than the other field. Coming to this conclusion took a lot of introspection. My parents, however, were NOT happy to hear this. "I hope you can do something better than that" and "Ugh, the lowest students typically go into that". Everytime I bring it up, they're dismissive and even mean to me and make snide comments like that. They still don't think I'm serious about choosing it.
I've wanted to be a doc my whole life and always have done well. It would crush me not to make them happy in the end. It's really getting me down and making me feel bad about choosing IM as a career (I know it shouldn't). What do I do here to make things better between us? Or is there nothing I can do?
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