Parents unhappy with my specialty choice. Wat do?

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i think IM subs should be integrated programs. All these people rationalizing the risk of getting stuck in general IM, because they want GI/cards, makes internal medicine look bad

These exist on a limited scale at a number of programs - "fast track" programs. Unfortunately they are usually designed/intended for producing academics and the applicant pool skews heavily toward the MD/PhD crowd.

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i think im s

i think IM subs should be integrated programs. All these people rationalizing the risk of getting stuck in general IM, because they want GI/cards, makes internal medicine look bad
There are already those type of IM programs - they're called fast track programs, I believe.
 
These exist on a limited scale at a number of programs - "fast track" programs. Unfortunately they are usually designed/intended for producing academics and the applicant pool skews heavily toward the MD/PhD crowd.
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No, but you explained it well. I believe the reason there aren't more is bc the fast-track programs are HEAVILY skewed towards people with a lot of publications in med school (usually in that area) or MD/PhDs. I guess the program figures if they're going to lose you for a year, then at least you can make them look good by cranking out publications.
 
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i think IM subs should be integrated programs. All these people rationalizing the risk of getting stuck in general IM, because they want GI/cards, makes internal medicine look bad
Yea it does. IM has some awesome subspecialties. Unfortunately, a lot of people don't want to go through 3 years of IM residency and the risk of not getting one. However, if you go to a very good program like top 20 and work hard/keep your head down, from what I know, your chances are pretty good at getting a fellowship somewhere.
 
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I believe it knocks off 1 year of IM.

From what I know, the time in IM before they are technically fellows is a little more streamlined with more time in the sub-specialty rotations.

But it is still 6 years overall - they have more research time than the usual fellow.

The idea is that it is for people who already have a good sense of what they want their research career to look like (thus the emphasis on PhDs)
 
From what I know, the time in IM before they are technically fellows is a little more streamlined with more time in the sub-specialty rotations.

But it is still 6 years overall - they have more research time than the usual fellow.

The idea is that it is for people who already have a good sense of what they want their research career to look like (thus the emphasis on PhDs)
How do they streamline it? Are their electives already decided for them - I guess in their subspecialty? What's the point in doing the research if you already have the fellowship? Or I guess it's more to build up an academic/physician-scientist CV?
 
How do they streamline it? Are their electives already decided for them - I guess in their subspecialty?

I think they have the required numbers in each category to meet their board eligibility requirements, but not much more. I don't know the full details.

What's the point in doing the research if you already have the fellowship? Or I guess it's more to build up an academic/physician-scientist CV?

Yup. To start building a academic career.
 
I've heard of those. the ABIM research pathway. Often times they can end being LONGER than the actual path. 2 years IM + 2 years cards clinical + 3 years research (lolz). I'm actually interested in academics so it's something I might look at. The problem is none of my current research is dedicated towards a certain field (let alone IM) as of right now, although I'd say I'm much more productive research-wise than the average IM applicant.

EDIT: What I'm thinking of may be different? You apply during PGY-2 for that one.

I have told my parents that I wish to specialize if I do IM, and they pretty much don't seem to hear it. The next I bring it up, it's like they never heard that part. The actual part of applying through and going through IM would be super awkward. And I can already hear them during my IM fellowship app season... "See, now you have to go through this whole process and move all over again! You should have done xxx!"

Serious case of the feels right now :(
 
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According to this at Pitt: http://www.residency.dom.pitt.edu/program_overview/tracks/abim.html

It's 2 years + 3 years of research + up to 2 years fellowship! I guess if student loan interest isn't a problem for you then sure, why not?

At my hospital I think it is shorter than that, at least from what I've heard. But yeah - it's kind of odd to call it a fast track. I guess the major advantage is (a) guaranteed fellowship and (b) less time in general medicine
 
I've heard of those. the ABIM research pathway. Often times they can end being LONGER than the actual path. 2 years IM + 2 years cards clinical + 3 years research (lolz). I'm actually interested in academics so it's something I might look at. The problem is none of my current research is dedicated towards a certain field (let alone IM) as of right now, although I'd say I'm much more productive research-wise than the average IM applicant.

I have told my parents that I wish to specialize if I do IM, and they pretty much don't seem to hear it. The next I bring it up, it's like they never heard that part. The actual part of applying through and going through IM would be super awkward. And I can already hear them during my IM fellowship app season... "See, now you have to go through this whole process and move all over again! You should have done xxx!"

Serious case of the feels right now :(
While I do not know your parents (reminds me of the family guy Asian doctor clip):



I think part of the reason is bc they want you to be successful, with no regrets. With IM, there is always the possibility that you might not get the fellowship you're going for, or you might have to do an extra chief year (Ugh!), etc. There is a risk with IM if your intent is to subspecialize.

Realize, and I know people may disagree with me on this, that certain specialties aren't necessarily a good deal depending on how much tuition you owe. If you're at WashU, and you end up doing General IM, financially, you would have been better off at another school, or even doing PA/NP (I'm talking about financially ONLY here), with the way the reimbursement scheme is now. That being said, I don't recommend choosing a medical specialty based on what you THINK the reimbursement scheme will be.

I think you need to take into consideration a lot of things: years to finish, lifestyle, will I be able to do this till age 65 or higher, etc. These are all intangibles that are hard to appreciate at 25.
 
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At my hospital I think it is shorter than that, at least from what I've heard. But yeah - it's kind of odd to call it a fast track. I guess the major advantage is (a) guaranteed fellowship and (b) less time in general medicine
Yes, that's the fast-track part. Guaranteed fellowship, no app process, and only 2 years of General IM (heck 1 year can feel like an eternity, so 3 years must be painful - it's nothing like a General Surgery internship, of course, but nothing really is).
 
I've heard of those. the ABIM research pathway. Often times they can end being LONGER than the actual path. 2 years IM + 2 years cards clinical + 3 years research (lolz). I'm actually interested in academics so it's something I might look at. The problem is none of my current research is dedicated towards a certain field (let alone IM) as of right now, although I'd say I'm much more productive research-wise than the average IM applicant.

EDIT: What I'm thinking of may be different? You apply during PGY-2 for that one.

I have told my parents that I wish to specialize if I do IM, and they pretty much don't seem to hear it. The next I bring it up, it's like they never heard that part. The actual part of applying through and going through IM would be super awkward. And I can already hear them during my IM fellowship app season... "See, now you have to go through this whole process and move all over again! You should have done xxx!"

Serious case of the feels right now :(

Umm, many residents in every specialty will choose to subspecialize.

I wouldn't do general surgery, ent, ophtho, radiology, neuro without subspecializing personally....
 
Umm, many residents in every specialty will choose to subspecialize.

I wouldn't do general surgery, ent, ophtho, radiology, neuro without subspecializing personally....
Except ENT, Ophtho, Neurology, Radiology are already specialties in themselves, in which subspecialization doesn't make that much of a difference.

Big difference between being a General Surgeon vs. a Surgical Oncologist.
 
Except ENT, Ophtho, Neurology, Radiology are already specialties in themselves, in which subspecialization doesn't make that much of a difference.

Big difference between being a General Surgeon vs. a Surgical Oncologist.
Oh definitely. I meant in terms of his parents giving him **** for sending in more apps lol. A lot of people will be sending in more apps.
 
Oh definitely. I meant in terms of his parents giving him **** for sending in more apps lol. A lot of people will be sending in more apps.
They'll probably ask why he wants to specialize even further when he's already at a good point - like doing Ophtho and then want to specialize even more.
 
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They'll probably ask why he wants to specialize even further when he's already at a good point - like doing Ophtho and then want to specialize even more.
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You have to live with your choice, not your parents. Time for mommy and daddy to let go. You are an adult, they now have the privilege to give you advice, but they have no right to dictate your life. Do what you will enjoy doing for the rest of your life.
 
Except ENT, Ophtho, Neurology, Radiology are already specialties in themselves, in which subspecialization doesn't make that much of a difference.

Big difference between being a General Surgeon vs. a Surgical Oncologist.

I'm not sure what you mean by it doesn't make much of a difference. The daily responsibilities of facial plastics vs. vanilla ENT can vary a great deal. If you go to sleep medicine from neuro you will likely not see many stroke patients, IR is quite different from regular rads (though I hear IR does quite a bit of film reading on the side).
 
I'm not sure what you mean by it doesn't make much of a difference. The daily responsibilities of facial plastics vs. vanilla ENT can vary a great deal. If you go to sleep medicine from neuro you will likely not see many stroke patients, IR is quite different from regular rads (though I hear IR does quite a bit of film reading on the side).
Even if you don't do a facial plastics fellowship, ENT is quite good from a lifestyle perspective. I guess that's more the case for Rads, however, the lifestyle of IR is actually worse than for regular DR.
 
Even if you don't do a facial plastics fellowship, ENT is quite good from a lifestyle perspective. I guess that's more the case for Rads, however, the lifestyle of IR is actually worse than for regular DR.

did your initial post refer to lifestyle, specifically? I still think that fellowships can be a game changer in those other fields as well, although possibly not to the same extent.
 
did your initial post refer to lifestyle, specifically? I still think that fellowships can be a game changer in those other fields as well, although possibly not to the same extent.
My point is that a fellowship is not that much of a gamechanger in certain specialties. Quite a different scenario of going IM and not getting Allergy, GI, Cards, etc.
 
My point is that a fellowship is not that much of a gamechanger in certain specialties. Quite a different scenario of going IM and not getting Allergy, GI, Cards, etc.

I see what you're saying, but I was surprised after seeing some of these other super-specialists and how it did change the game quite a bit with regards to career trajectory (e.g., sleep medicine, IR).
 
I see what you're saying, but I was surprised after seeing some of these other super-specialists and how it did change the game quite a bit with regards to career trajectory (e.g., sleep medicine, IR).
Yes, but even if they didn't get the fellowship they got a pretty damn good deal. I'm sorry, but if someone is in Derm and doesn't get their Mohs Surgery fellowship, I'm not going to be crying tears for them bc they still got a pretty **** good deal.

Someone who did IM, and has been gunning for GI and doesn't get it, I'm going to feel much more sympathy for them.
 
Yes, but even if they didn't get the fellowship they got a pretty damn good deal. I'm sorry, but if someone is in Derm and doesn't get their Mohs Surgery fellowship, I'm not going to be crying tears for them bc they still got a pretty **** good deal.

Someone who did IM, and has been gunning for GI and doesn't get it, I'm going to feel much more sympathy for them.

i think if you were going to rads with the intention of doing IR you'd be pretty miserable, or ophtho with the intention of doing surg retina (especially because of the job market). on the whole i agree with you, though
 
i think if you were going to rads with the intention of doing IR you'd be pretty miserable, or ophtho with the intention of doing surg retina (especially because of the job market). on the whole i agree with you, though
Again no. In terms of lifestyle (and really even salary), you're doing pretty darn good by doing Rads (either DR or some other fellowship) or Ophtho (without doing retina).
 
Again no. In terms of lifestyle (and really even salary), you're doing pretty darn good by doing Rads (either DR or some other fellowship) or Ophtho (without doing retina).

i'm just basing what i'm saying on what you had originally said regarding "difference"; I was pretty surprised by how much of a game changer some of these fellowships were.
 
Again no. In terms of lifestyle (and really even salary), you're doing pretty darn good by doing Rads (either DR or some other fellowship) or Ophtho (without doing retina).

Agreed on this. Honestly IM v.s. the subspecialties is like doing an entirely different field altogether.
 
i'm just basing what i'm saying on what you had originally said regarding "difference"; I was pretty surprised by how much of a game changer some of these fellowships were.

And what I said was this (bolded for emphasis):
Except ENT, Ophtho, Neurology, Radiology are already specialties in themselves, in which subspecialization doesn't make that much of a difference.

Big difference between being a General Surgeon vs. a Surgical Oncologist.
 
Agreed on this. Honestly IM v.s. the subspecialties is like doing an entirely different field altogether.
Yes, the difference between doing general IM and all it encompasses (ICU, Wards, etc. along with weekly outpatient clinics where while you're seeing patients you have to have worry about what's going on on the inpatient floor) vs. doing Allergy, GI, etc. is very different.
 
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A somewhat unique issue. Some background:

American born, but with a foreign background. Currently an M3. Mom is a physician. They were very pushy academically, and raised me here to give me a better life. I owe everything to them, and we have an amazing, close relationship. They partly funded my education - particularly my entire first year of school. They still pay for my housing. That said, they have some views I don't agree with.

I was originally going for a very competitive specialty. Made connections, done/doing research etc. After rotating in it and giving it a lot of thought, I've decided to focus on Internal Medicine. I love a lot about it, and really was just all around happier doing that than the other field. Coming to this conclusion took a lot of introspection. My parents, however, were NOT happy to hear this. "I hope you can do something better than that" and "Ugh, the lowest students typically go into that". Everytime I bring it up, they're dismissive and even mean to me and make snide comments like that. They still don't think I'm serious about choosing it.

I've wanted to be a doc my whole life and always have done well. It would crush me not to make them happy in the end. It's really getting me down and making me feel bad about choosing IM as a career (I know it shouldn't). What do I do here to make things better between us? Or is there nothing I can do?

I find this a little bit strange, particularly if you're interested in IM sub specialties like cards or GI. I guarantee you that any interventional cardiologist has just as much "prestige" to the layperson (and makes as much money) as any orthopod. Furthermore, you can't simply blanket an entire field like IM because there is such huge variation in the quality and *gasp* prestige of programs. While ortho and other surg subspecialties might on average draw stronger applicants, it's because the number of spots is significantly smaller. I bet you'll find that the average BWH/Hopkins/UCSF IM resident's CV would rival that of any applicant to more "prestigious" fields. If you were competitive enough for that other specialty then you'll probably have a shot of matching into a strong university IM program that can set you up for whatever you want to do. An IM resident at my strong but not elite university program told me that 100% of the people who wanted cards/GI got it in the last 6 years. Since IM programs want to buff up their fellowship match lists you would have to screw up majorly to not have the faculty batting for you. Good luck.
 
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I find this a little bit strange, particularly if you're interested in IM sub specialties like cards or GI. I guarantee you that any interventional cardiologist has just as much "prestige" to the layperson (and makes as much money) as any orthopod. Furthermore, you can't simply blanket an entire field like IM because there is such huge variation in the quality and *gasp* prestige of programs. While ortho and other surg subspecialties might on average draw stronger applicants, it's because the number of spots is significantly smaller. I bet you'll find that the average BWH/Hopkins/UCSF IM resident's CV would rival that of any applicant to more "prestigious" fields. If you were competitive enough for that other specialty then you'll probably have a shot of matching into a strong university IM program that can set you up for whatever you want to do. An IM resident at my strong but not elite university program told me that 100% of the people who wanted cards/GI got it in the last 6 years. Since IM programs want to buff up their fellowship match lists you would have to screw up majorly to not have the faculty batting for you. Good luck.


This varies a lot from program to program. Some even small community programs have GI/cards fellowships and will take their own to support their own dudes (but this is 1-2 spots). However, there are plenty of university programs that will not be a lock for GI no matter how hard you work and no matter how well the attendings go to bat for you. And some university porgrams have small GI departments and don't focus on research. Small + no research = difficult. If you go to a great top 20 program, what you say is more true though.

And I'm applying to IM. I wouldn't discourage someone from applying to IM, but people should be aware of what they're getting themselves into.
 
I'm probably biased because I'm going into IM, but academic IM physicians have always been the most prestigious to me. The knowledge base and compassion displayed by some of these guys has truly been inspiring. There are tons of "low students" who go into IM simply because there are a ton of IM spots. As others have said, the top end of IM programs are very very competitive. You gotta go with your gut, you're the only one who is going to be working the job.
 
This varies a lot from program to program. Some even small community programs have GI/cards fellowships and will take their own to support their own dudes (but this is 1-2 spots). However, there are plenty of university programs that will not be a lock for GI no matter how hard you work and no matter how well the attendings go to bat for you. And some university porgrams have small GI departments and don't focus on research. Small + no research = difficult. If you go to a great top 20 program, what you say is more true though.

And I'm applying to IM. I wouldn't discourage someone from applying to IM, but people should be aware of what they're getting themselves into.

Interesting. Yes, I was primarily talking about top 20 programs which probably wouldn't be out of reach for the op who was planning on going into a "very competitive" specialty. I'm not sure if my home program is a top 20 for IM (probably somewhere around there) but we have an extremely strong GI dep so I'm assuming it varies by subspecialty as well. Some people were fear mongering by saying that if you match at a big 4 you still might not get cards/GI to which I'm saying that you would have to f up majorly for that to be the case. I bet Brigham IM fellowship applicants have 100% match rates for every subspecialty. If people are competitive for top tier IM they shouldn't be dissuaded from pursuing a subspecialty they're genuinely interested in just because of a second match process.
 
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Interesting. Yes, I was primarily talking about top 20 programs which probably wouldn't be out of reach for the op who was planning on going into a "very competitive" specialty. I'm not sure if my home program is a top 20 for IM (probably somewhere around there) but we have an extremely strong GI dep so I'm assuming it varies by subspecialty as well. Some people were fear mongering by saying that if you match at a big 4 you still might not get cards/GI to which I'm saying that you would have to f up majorly for that to be the case. I bet Brigham IM fellowship applicants have 100% match rates for every subspecialty. If people are competitive for top tier IM they shouldn't be dissuaded from pursuing a subspecialty they're genuinely interested in just because of a second match process.

Agreed
 
Normally I'd be all like...f@ck it bro...do what you feel. But in this case I'm siding with the parents, albeit for very different reasons. General medicine floors is where hope and dreams go to die. And then get raped.
 
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Normally I'd be all like...f@ck it bro...do what you feel. But in this case I'm siding with the parents, albeit for very different reasons. General medicine floors is where hope and dreams go to die. And then get raped.
No. General medicine floors at the VA is where hopes and dreams truly go to die.
 
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No. General medicine floors at the VA is where hopes and dreams truly go to die.
The VA is also where all decency and organization go to die. And of course, as a result, our vets.
 
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Normally I'd be all like...f@ck it bro...do what you feel. But in this case I'm siding with the parents, albeit for very different reasons. General medicine floors is where hope and dreams go to die. And then get raped.
lol
 
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I'm probably biased because I'm going into IM, but academic IM physicians have always been the most prestigious to me.

Academic IM physicians love to think this about themselves, harkening back to the glory days of medicine when the academic internist was a miraculous font of encyclopedic knowledge, respected and admired by all. Basically they all see themselves as Osler reincarnate.

Unfortunately, that hasn't been reality since around the time House of God was written.
 
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Academic IM physicians love to think this about themselves, harkening back to the glory days of medicine when the academic internist was a miraculous font of encyclopedic knowledge, respected and admired by all. Basically they all see themselves as Osler reincarnate.

Unfortunately, that hasn't been reality since around the time House of God was written.
Yes, and it's quite utterly annoying. It's also not fair bc they get a bully pulpit to medical students that other specialties don't get. Who is the one doing clinical lectures in different organ systems blocks in Pathology? Usually IM subspecialists bc they're subdivided by organ systems. Who is the one who is usually running the Physical Diagnosis course taught in the first 2 years? IM.

And then of course Internal Medicine's favorite refrain that their specialty is the underpinning of all other specialties.
 
Yes, and it's quite utterly annoying. It's also not fair bc they get a bully pulpit to medical students that other specialties don't get. Who is the one doing clinical lectures in different organ systems blocks in Pathology? Usually IM subspecialists bc they're subdivided by organ systems. Who is the one who is usually running the Physical Diagnosis course taught in the first 2 years? IM.

And then of course Internal Medicine's favorite refrain that their specialty is the underpinning of all other specialties.

I agree with all that, but I think it's even worse when it comes to clinical care. You get these academic IM docs who are like 90% research, but to maintain their clinical appointment the department sticks them on inpatient wards 6 weeks out of the year, and that is just about their only clinical practice. So you take a researcher with an incredibly narrow focus and throw them on general inpatient medicine. The residents I know all have to basically teach these guys the latest clinical guidelines and convince them of the treatment plans. It shows how little academic medicine departments care about the clinical enterprise.
 
I agree with all that, but I think it's even worse when it comes to clinical care. You get these academic IM docs who are like 90% research, but to maintain their clinical appointment the department sticks them on inpatient wards 6 weeks out of the year, and that is just about their only clinical practice. So you take a researcher with an incredibly narrow focus and throw them on general inpatient medicine. The residents I know all have to basically teach these guys the latest clinical guidelines and convince them of the treatment plans. It shows how little academic medicine departments care about the clinical enterprise.
It's bc most of their institutional gravitas comes from obtaining NIH research grants esp. with hardhitters like CV disease, colon cancer, etc. I noticed that more with IM vs. Surgery in which research was more an adjunct, but those Surgeons were still participating in clinical care (even the ones with more of a laboratory research focus).
 
OP, do what you want to do. Parents are important, especially since they basically put you through medical school, but ultimately you're the one who will have to live with the decision.

Take a good look at other specialties, but if in the end you want IM, go for it. You could always rank only top IM programs followed by the next specialty you're interested in, but that adds complications to the app process that you may just not want to have to deal with.
 
I've already started pounding into my parents' heads how competitive, prestigious and how much money Cardiologists and Gastroenterologists make. They were very surprised to hear that they made, on average, more money than the field I was considering before. Definitely perked their ears up. :(
 
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