Hi guys,
So funny this situation...mum..well for my pers experience, i've been through engineering (uni + work) then switched to med school (nearly finishing with med school now) and i experienced both academic/life situations. As for engineering...mum..we worked hard but we were partying hard too lol it's all about team work, your life and work success is based on your interaction with your colleagues and that is why we spent a lot of time together working on projects and then going to the local bar at 1am..(yes..was possible in London back then!)...anyways..it makes you strong and ready to face difficult and stressful situations but i wouldnt say that it is harder/easier than med school...Medicine is hard too but with much less interactions with colleagues..unfortunately...a lot of individualism and competition at my school, which makes u less REAL friend with colleagues...but much more interactions with the society.
Bottom line is..from your side, you are not a doctor yet, from your bf's side, he is not an engineer yet...both of you can either fail or succeed..imagine you fail and your bf succeed...your parents will be begging you to marry this guy as they base their criterias on financial levels...now imagine the other way around..you behave like a stubborn girl...you say NO to the evil parents and u go out with the guy who ends up failing his school...not because of real prob (death of family member..etc) but because he gets into carelessness, drugs, bad influence from uni peers...etc...now you certainly dont want this guy to be the father of your children, with no money, no respect and no decency (he would still love you but not respect you enough)...it will be a total disaster...so my final advice is:
1/ Base your choices on feelings + logic (your school is your futur, no man in this world will ever be able to give you the respect you deserve if you dont get that respect yourself as a woman by achieving high places in the society
2/ Trust me, life changes people, now you're gonna get to diff adult environnements (uni is not high school, and med/engineering uni is not normal uni) and see if your life choices convert or divert with time
3/ You need to PROOVE to your parents that this relationship is bringing you success in ur life (good grades or good ambitions...etc) and not just say NO as they will never give up just with the Romeo/Juliette lecture you're giving them everyday...what is import for them if the happiness of their daughter...not how much you love a doll that you see in a sparkeled store (hope you understand the metaphore)
4/ I pers experienced dating the smart guys and the, not my level guys...let me tell u that the 1st type is pissed off to see challenging girls lol most of the time..the 2nd well there is a honeymoon period that fades away after some time (quick or slow) and at the end..finding myself only talking about sports...leasure...non intellctual/politics..etc is quite boring...i am an intellectual woman and wanting to have a break is human..but it is not my nature...i hope you too you will be an intellectual woman one day
5/ no matter what your decision is...try to picture your futur from time to time...see which values u want to pass to ur children..would u want them to have a father they ll be proud of or not...and trust me..science, intellectualy are things to be strongly proud of..even if their father is a jurk..life changes people..but what we have in our brains will never change...remember..science is to be applied in our lives..to make us noble people...
Think about your future dear stranger