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Help me out here. I'm trying to keep an open mind, but...
(I'm not here to flame anyone. I'm looking for your insight as I do not understand what goes on in the minds of other people.)
What's up with all of those parenting threads lately?
In my day to day interactions with people, I will often hear someone make an assumption like: "when you get married" or "when you have kids". My thoughts after someone says something like that: "Do I really need to relate to you by going through childbirth? Is that really necessary? Do you not have any other means to connect with people besides adding more people to this overpopulated Earth? Are you that shallow?"
Do people really feel like they've accomplished something great by having children? I would almost consider parenthood to be a deliberate insult to a person's life.
I personally feel that parenting is hazardous to women for two reasons:
1) women are forever viewed as mothers and the social stigmas associated with mothers makes their role more problematic (Common cliche's: "Stop acting like my mother." "Who do you think you are? My mother?" "She acts like that, because she's a mom.")
2) women who have children are no longer "sought after" or "prized", because they've already been "conquered"
Maybe I'm viewing parenthood as a sacrifice instead of a voluntary decision like going to pharmacy school?
Maybe I don't see the value in having children when society is already plagued by dependent, unambitious citizens?
Maybe I need a vacation?
(I'm not here to flame anyone. I'm looking for your insight as I do not understand what goes on in the minds of other people.)
What's up with all of those parenting threads lately?
In my day to day interactions with people, I will often hear someone make an assumption like: "when you get married" or "when you have kids". My thoughts after someone says something like that: "Do I really need to relate to you by going through childbirth? Is that really necessary? Do you not have any other means to connect with people besides adding more people to this overpopulated Earth? Are you that shallow?"
Do people really feel like they've accomplished something great by having children? I would almost consider parenthood to be a deliberate insult to a person's life.
I personally feel that parenting is hazardous to women for two reasons:
1) women are forever viewed as mothers and the social stigmas associated with mothers makes their role more problematic (Common cliche's: "Stop acting like my mother." "Who do you think you are? My mother?" "She acts like that, because she's a mom.")
2) women who have children are no longer "sought after" or "prized", because they've already been "conquered"
Maybe I'm viewing parenthood as a sacrifice instead of a voluntary decision like going to pharmacy school?
Maybe I don't see the value in having children when society is already plagued by dependent, unambitious citizens?
Maybe I need a vacation?