My girlfriend is too evil for long-distance

SocialistMD said:
1. It is possible to want that "one" woman and still date. You can't force a square peg into a circular hole. H._Caulfield, you need to let this girl go. If you believe there is one right woman for you, this isn't the one. If you don't believe that, you are really torturing yourself for nothing.

2. It is possible to want that "one" woman without "honoring God..." In my life, I have had 4 serious, long-term girlfriends, the fourth being my wife, and never really "casually dated. as that just isn't my bag. I am not doing so to honor God, nor would my wife claim to be, yet her character stands out above the rest. You can't make claims that sound like only godly people choose to live the "one man one woman marriage." It is insulting to those of us who do have those values who are not religious, as we generally don't want to be included in the short-sighted group that sees all good as religious and all that is bad is secular.
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agree, socialistMD.

gotta say though, i'm confused by your name and then your title as a resident objectivist?
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Therapist4Chnge said:
Let me guess...you are 22-23? Guess what...in general that is WAAAAAAAAY to young for most people to know what they want. In the best case....your g/f doesn't know what she wants. In the worst case, she knows what she wants, and it isn't you.

I'd bail and live my life.

-t
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Amen to that.
 
So was she banging her ex while you were hitting the books?

Update please.
 
blazenmadison said:
my advice...
Dump her and move on. :) :) :)
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Good advise.

Just as a perspective, I work with a doctor who has a wife who is demanding. She's a stay at home mom who is incapable, self-absorbed, neurotic, and disrespectful of the long, hard hours he puts into bring home the bacon. This doctor is stressed out by his bratty wife and his bratty kids. She interupts him on the job routinely with petty domestic concerns.

So, consider this a red flag and find a new girlfriend.
 
To the OP: If she is that needy. Dump her.

Also, her associating with the Ex-boyfriend IMHO is ALWAYS an automatic dump. Exercise the no-tolerance rule bro!

As a future doctor, you'll come across MANY women in your travels. :thumbup:

Best Wishes :)
Richie
 
So I actually had the opposite situation from you. I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years. It actually started out long distance, we met through a mutual friend but both attend different colleges and I don't think the topic ever even came up about either of us transferring, we each like our own schools too much to even think of that. We have lived together in the summers though.

Next year we will finally be able to live together, in the same city, full time. I can't tell you how excited I am. It takes the right kind of personalities to be able to deal with and survive through a long distance relationship. I won't lie, in the beginning it sucked major major ass. It's like a never ending roller coaster, you see each other for a weekend and it's the most awesome time ever, and then you're gone from each other for weeks and it's almost like the relationship took 2 steps forward and then 3 steps back. I have respect for anyone else who can survive through it and who choses to survive it.

If you are planning to begin a long distance relationship I definitely agree with the others on here in saying that you really need to find out if that person is willing to dedicate themselves to you for the long haul. I actually dated a guy for about a year with 6 months of that time being in the same city and the last 6 months us being apart. To make an analogy, the relationship was like a flower and everyday a new petal was ripped off. By the time we finally broke up I think that flower had died about 2 months prior. I'm sure he realized it, and I had definitely realized it months beforehand but I felt so secure that I didn't want it to end and be single again. It takes a lot of guys to finally step up and say "this isn't working, we need to stop". But the sooner you do so, the sooner you will be able to move on with your life and find someone who is right for you.
 
BethinWA said:
:laugh:

On another message board I used to visit, long before residency, they had the best smiley ever. It had feet, and it laid on its back, kicking its legs up and down and laughing. I really wish I had that smiley right now. :)

It amuses me the number of people who think most statistics are actually true. Or who (shudder) live their lives by them. I have family in scientific polling, statistics, etc. I know firsthand how these "statistics" that get bantered around can be misused, skewed to fit one person's perspective, etc. Such as global warming (shudder). A lot of statistics actually don't point to global warming. But if you take them within a small time period and ignore certain other factors, you can make them seem like global warming is a true-never-to-be-dismissed fact. Ah liberals! :rolleyes:

I think liberals live their lives by statistics, while the rest of us try to live our lives by a higher power. :)

Oh, hope this doesn't offend anyone. :eek:

;)

Seriously, I have enough personal experience to know that the statistics about female residents not dating is profoundly untrue. Have a nice day. :)
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Quite possibly the dumbest post I have ever read. Hope I did not offend anyone...
 
BethinWA said:
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A lot of statistics actually don't point to global warming. But if you take them within a small time period and ignore certain other factors, you can make them seem like global warming is a true-never-to-be-dismissed fact. Ah liberals! :rolleyes:

I think liberals live their lives by statistics, while the rest of us try to live our lives by a higher power. :)

Oh, hope this doesn't offend anyone. :eek:
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The first comment in bold "Ah liberals", tells me that I'm hearing more of the same from you people; the same old tired rhetoric from people who call themselves Christians. Christians who seem to promote hatred. In this group, you have people who've molested young children for years on end; you have people with many failed marriages as in Guilianni (sure the Chrisitian); you have people who lie and deceive the public (as in Bush); you have people like you who think they are only God's children and anyone not associated with the Republican party are evil. In fact, you have an American presidential hopeful who's trailing in the polls because he lost the luck of the draw: being a Mormon. I usually have a coherent and more thoughtful replies, but I'm actually at a loss of words here.

Newt Gingrich, a former top republican & harsh critic of President Clinton, confessed to having extra marital affairs during Clinton's sex probe. Religion is dangerous. People like you are dangerous. May God, if there is one, have a hand on you fake Christians.

Oh ... I'm neither Christian, nor Democrat, nor Republican (the party of God's children).

P.S. They say one is supposed to be free once he/she accepts Jesus as Lord. Yet, the same people say that after Baptism, life is no cakewalk and that Jesus was tempted in the desert. What kind of logic is this? I call this a puzzling paradox. Having said that, I'm thinking of renouncing my 'Christian' faith (got baptized in July... to see the difference) and return to my atheist lifestyle; a restriction-free life. After all, what difference does it make? I wasn't a republican anyways.

To the OP: Terminate your relationship and show her that you are actually dating a beautiful medical student. You will help each other out.


The hopeful Romantic
 
NewRx said:
The first comment in bold "Ah liberals", tells me that I'm hearing more of the same from you people; the same old tired rhetoric from people who call themselves Christians. Christians who seem to promote hatred. In this group, you have people who've molested young children for years on end; you have people with many failed marriages as in Guilianni (sure the Chrisitian); you have people who lie and deceive the public (as in Bush); you have people like you who think they are only God's children and anyone not associated with the Republican party are evil. In fact, you have an American presidential hopeful who's trailing in the polls because he lost the luck of the draw: being a Mormon. I usually have a coherent and more thoughtful replies, but I'm actually at a loss of words here.

Newt Gingrich, a former top republican & harsh critic of President Clinton, confessed to having extra marital affairs during Clinton's sex probe. Religion is dangerous. People like you are dangerous. May God, if there is one, have a hand on you fake Christians.

Oh ... I'm neither Christian, nor Democrat, nor Republican (the party of God's children).

P.S. They say one is supposed to be free once he/she accepts Jesus as Lord. Yet, the same people say that after Baptism, life is no cakewalk and that Jesus was tempted in the desert. What kind of logic is this? I call this a puzzling paradox. Having said that, I'm thinking of renouncing my 'Christian' faith (got baptized in July... to see the difference) and return to my atheist lifestyle; a restriction-free life. After all, what difference does it make? I wasn't a republican anyways.

To the OP: Terminate your relationship and show her that you are actually dating a beautiful medical student. You will help each other out.


The hopeful Romantic
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Bump! Ya! That's the way! You done toe' her up!!!:thumbup:

Seriously though, I'm tired of the wicked lies and distorted truths that people like BethWA spew. So certain of their "salvation"....(I am no atheist btw).... Their ilk have done nothing but hurt the U.S. and the rest of the world for the last 8 years. Them and their corporate handmaidens....... And another thing, how the hell do you people disapprove of abortion, yet unwaveringly support the death penalty?
 
This atheist has been happily married for almost 10 years...

FWIW, here's some advice from a long-married woman: when your partner shows his/her true colors before marriage, thank him/her profusely. Although it's tough to experience the disintegration of a long-term relationship, wouldn't you rather it happen now than after you're married with 2.3 children? Thank him/her for the opportunity to know what you're not looking for, so you are now free to find a supportive partner with whom you can truly share your life. :)
 
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Your crazy girlfriend is obviously caused by global warming :D
 
H_Caulfield said:
My girlfriend is a wicked, nasty, deceitful b*tch. Since I've gone to medical school she has:

1. complained like mad about how lonely she is, yet is too lazy to ever drive up and see me (5 hrs.), and throws a fit when I can't answer the phone at 11:00am (even though I leave lecture and call her immediately thereafter). Her response to the latter is to embark upon a few spiteful days of not answering HER phone.

2. been allowing her ex to come around every weekend, spending hours and hours on end at her house, though he was out of the picture for the full 2 years before I left (could only make his move once I was 600 miles away...coward...). I can't comment on how inappropriate this is, because she'll accuse me of not trusting her and, frankly, goes into wild b*tchy hysterics to avoid talking about it. She lets him try again and again to talk her into going back to him, puts up no resistance or objection to his blatant attempts, and swears she hasn't done anything wrong because she hasn't done anything "physical" with him. I'm a bit skeptical about this last claim...

3. been refusing in any and all ways to acknowledge that things were great between us for years before I left for school, insisting that we're "not compatible" anymore. Her stupid *ss thinks the past 12 months of talking on the phone once a night are a better indication of how good we are together than were the blissful years before I left.

So, to anyone reading this and about to go away to school, evaluate your significant other beforehand. Decide whether he or she is WILLING to put the effort into making it work at distance. It takes a great deal of effort, and do yourselves a favor by trying to determine, first, whether YOUR significant other is too much of a lazy, deceitful, selfish piece of **** to fight through that time for the sake of what you've had together in the past.

Currently waiting for her to call; 3 hours ago said she would contact me "in 15 minutes," but has apparently gotten lost in some big dumb jock's lap. But thanks, guys; thanks for listening. I feel a little better now.
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Reading this makes me feel that I should get canonized...(not catholic though) nonetheless I should..I am the nicest and most patient not to mention pretty darn hot too:D:D gf there is...wish my bf would appreciate me more and would express more how much I mean to him....but sadly..I hear it and feel his affection once in every rip tide:(.

Tell her to bugger off..and she is not the only piece of arse out there...wanking biatch!!!
 
Ionna said:
Reading this makes me feel that I should get canonized...(not catholic though) nonetheless I should..I am the nicest and most patient not to mention pretty darn hot too:D:D gf there is...
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Oh yeah? well.....

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:D
 
nachoDoc said:
Oh yeah? well.....

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:D
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I did not start the trend..but I think that the outfit is hideous:(...and that is not me either:p..what do you think of the outfit?

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The longer you stay in this relationship, the greater it will be able to screw up your life in the end.
 
lol i just stumbled on this thread somehow... this is ****ing hilarious haha. what a bitch, really, lol, like a cartoon character from hell
 
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