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I'm not single.
OK? Neither are most chicks that are 5'5 200. That's not impressive.
You don't ask a fish how to catch fish. You ask fishermen.
I'm not single.
OK? Neither are more chicks that are 5'5 200. That's not impressive.
You don't ask a fish how to catch fish. You ask fishermen.
I completely agree with @Lucca and I'm also not single. It's always amusing how the guys who are most adamant that "you don't understand women" or that "most men are delusional" are the ones that are always alone and generally unhappy with their dating livesYou're delusional
I completely agree with @Lucca and I'm also not single. It's always amusing how the guys who are most adamant that "you don't understand women" or that "most men are delusional" are the ones that are always alone and generally unhappy with their dating lives
^typical TRPer
Women can't know what women want, knowledge is man stuff!yah the point I was trying to make is that if you want to know what women want just ask them. They are pretty forthcoming and they don't all want the same things. Some of them want children and to stay at home all of the time taking care of them. Some of them want a career and don't give two ****s about men unwilling to support them. Some women don't want to be exclusive. I could go on and on.
The fishing example made me LoL because what you are saying is that women (or men) are just raw materials and they don't actually know what they want.
1. That's gross and 2. You guys don't trust me either sooooOK? Neither are most chicks that are 5'5 200. That's not impressive.
You don't ask a fish how to catch fish. You ask fishermen.
OK? Neither are most chicks that are 5'5 200. That's not impressive.
You don't ask a fish how to catch fish. You ask fishermen.
What always happensWhat happened in here?
Doing something that shows drive, intelligence, ambition, a desire to serve others? You're right, f that.
huh-uh-uuuuuuh....YOU CONVINCED ME!
Seriously though, if these women let go of the idea that they all deserve to be married to a tall white doctor their options will open up.
I don't think it's wrong of him to have preferences. Everyone has preferences, you just don't have to portray them in the douchey-est way possible and be insulting towards women in medicine. While he may not find women in medicine sexy, not everyone thinks that way.I don't disagree with you that he said this tactlessly, but he really said a more concise version of what I said in my previous post. Your list is of characteristics that women generally find part of their criteria for mates. My, and probably most guys', criteria are different than yours. There's overlap, things like intelligence and compassion, but implying that PL is somehow wrong for not looking for the same things that you do in a mate is disrespectful to his values, and more broadly, to the values of the opposite gender. Not that I find him particularly deserving of respect given his boorishness, but he's exhibit A at the moment.
But again, I completely understand how people like you and I, who so highly value the traits you listed in ourselves, can project that preference onto others. I can see how it would be a bit baffling to us med students (the OP especially) that someone would drop any of these criteria for a mate, or even that any of those criteria could actually decrease a potential partner's attractiveness. It's no different than someone valuing a certain religious belief (read: characteristic) and wanting a mate to value it, too. A person of another religion (read: gender) might find that very same value repulsive. I think that's somewhat easier to identify with, and I think it's helpful to illustrate the point.
(Disclaimer: Please don't forget I'm talking in generalities. Plenty of men value exactly what you listed, but I think many more would bump some off that list in favor of other things.)
I don't think it's wrong of him to have preferences. Everyone has preferences, you just don't have to portray them in the douchey-est way possible and be insulting towards women in medicine. While he may not find women in medicine sexy, not everyone thinks that way.
yah the point I was trying to make is that if you want to know what women want just ask them. They are pretty forthcoming and they don't all want the same things. Some of them want children and to stay at home all of the time taking care of them. Some of them want a career and don't give two ****s about men unwilling to support them. Some women don't want to be exclusive. I could go on and on.
The fishing example made me LoL because what you are saying is that women (or men) are just raw materials and they don't actually know what they want.
Fish are also prey. The whole analogy is really messed up because it's saying not only are men humans and women are not, but men are humans who kill and eat women. Just think about the logical conclusions of your analogy for a secondLol women will tell you what they want? Are you joking me. Seriously that is the most hilarious phrase I've ever seen. No you don't know what you want, because you can't openly admit it.
Again, you're delusional. I'm pretty sure a fish knows what it likes to eat but it's not going to tell you. Comparing to materials? Lol fish are sentient beings, just like a person is.
Honestly tp13- it's like you go out of your way to feel offended on behalf of your gender.Fish are also prey. The whole analogy is really messed up because it's saying not only are men humans and women are not, but men are humans who kill and eat women. Just think about the logical conclusions of your analogy for a second
yah the point I was trying to make is that if you want to know what women want just ask them. They are pretty forthcoming and they don't all want the same things. Some of them want children and to stay at home all of the time taking care of them. Some of them want a career and don't give two ****s about men unwilling to support them. Some women don't want to be exclusive. I could go on and on
Lol women will tell you what they want? Are you joking me. Seriously that is the most hilarious phrase I've ever seen. No you don't know what you want, because you can't openly admit it.
Again, you're delusional. I'm pretty sure a fish knows what it likes to eat but it's not going to tell you. Comparing to materials? Lol fish are sentient beings, just like a person is.
Lol women will tell you what they want? Are you joking me. Seriously that is the most hilarious phrase I've ever seen. No you don't know what you want, because you can't openly admit it.
Again, you're delusional. I'm pretty sure a fish knows what it likes to eat but it's not going to tell you. Comparing to materials? Lol fish are sentient beings, just like a person is.
Yeah but it ends up most often being used as examples of "bishes be crazy" instead of "human beings are complicated and want conflicting things"Except in most cases they'll want things that are at least somewhat contradictory (a high-powered successful career AND a loving close-knit family, for example). Men are the same way. We're always more objective about other people than about ourselves, and most people (regardless of gender) don't have a clear and consistent idea of what they really want.
I just hate this "man as pursuer" nonsense. It's 2015, anyone can pursue - we don't have to keep adhering to this neanderthal nonsense.Stop being sensational.
A fisherman tries to catch a fish. Look how any male has to behave in mating. They are generally the one who has to indicate value to the female. There are few if any species where the opposite is true.
I'm not comparing it to eating a woman.
ShhhSo animals aren't subservient to people? I'm guessing you eat fish all of the time.
Women will definitely tell you what they want lol. It might not always make sense but if that's the case that's when you jump off that boat and try to find another partner. I can't openly admit I know what I want? Or women can't? I don't understand. Help me understand
Honestly tp13- it's like you go out of your way to feel offended on behalf of your gender.
Lol way to act like it's just me even though there are men and women calling out the sexist bs in thread.Honestly tp13- it's like you go out of your way to feel offended on behalf of your gender.
I don't think you want to here his opinions on race either....What is a slave going to know about slavery? they don't understand the South needs them to survive, they are critical to our economy.
"Maybe I don't appreciate being used like I'm a resource who needs someone to use me because I'm black and more like someone who makes decisions about my life"
"Honestly, it's like you go out of way to feel offended on behalf of your race"
And just like that I've ensured that this thread only gets more toxic.
Lol you just compared women to slaves.
You did.
I don't think you want to here his opinions on race either....
No. Seeing as I never said a word about slaves. You did. Are you having a stroke?
Oh I'm plenty familiar, I should really ignore PL.
"The man is traditionally the one who has to indicate value to the female, this is how it is in nature."
"The white man is better than the black man, this has come about naturally and it is up to us to assign them value."
I just hate this "man as pursuer" nonsense. It's 2015, anyone can pursue - we don't have to keep adhering to this neanderthal nonsense.
I also hate your analogy for reasons previously stated
I have no idea what "the red pill" is, but it looks like everyone in this thread needs to take a chill pill.
You don't question a feminist or SJW or they come at you with a ferocity you've never experienced before.
Lol so obviously I didn't say the second quote. How you compare that to the first is beyond me. Are you sure you're not having a stroke?
No - but that's not her argument, at least I don't think it is. I think her argument is that there is a small hop from your statement to acting like women are slaves. I also think she's matching your level of over the top rhetoric in an attempt to demonstrate how silly you sound.Tp did I reference slavery?
No. It's not the same. It's not even close to the same. Seriously, go to the ED
No - but that's not her argument, at least I don't think it is. I think her argument is that there is a small hop from your statement to acting like women are slaves. I also think she's matching your level of over the top rhetoric in an attempt to demonstrate how silly you sound.
Apologies good sirGuy btw, don't let the pic fool u lol/.
Lol way to act like it's just me even though there are men and women calling out the sexist bs in thread.
While I totally agree, and I hate that it sounds like I'm defending him, I think it's important to point out that it's been demonstrated that when men do not apply benevolent sexism towards a woman, he is viewed by others (both men and women) as being more misogynistic than someone who does use benevolent sexism. This would look exactly like what your quote points out. PL is definitely coarse and insensitive. I'm not excusing that in any way. I don't recall a post of his I wasn't disappointed in.
Maintaining any kind of objectivity is hard when you're 'debating' like this, I know. During these discussions, I see a lot of people immediately get defensive and resort to countering black with white. Anger and ignorance are both best defeated by sympathy, though I know it's often hard to maintain compassion in the face of someone offending you. I find heroic stories to be most compelling when someone is wronged and shows kindness to the person who wronged them, like Mo'on Davis did just recently.
I'm not chiding you to discourage you, quite the contrary. I point this factoid out to encourage more positive discourse. We know people like PL will continue to be that way, but someone reading this thread might still be malleable. If they saw negativity and intellectual dishonesty on both sides, they'd just ignore what both of you say. But if they saw someone behaving in a way really deserving of respect (maintaining objectivity and compassion for their opposition), they would be so much more likely to join that camp.
You are way too even keeled to be on the internet. Go away, or become more of a dick please.
I've noticed a trend-- and this might be just at my school-- but it bothers me all the same.
I'm fortunate enough to attend a top 10 medical school; I worked so hard to get to where I am that I never really put much thought into dating. I figured I could simply make up for lost time while at medical school.
What I didn't account for is that the vast majority of guys in our class are taken (we're all about mid-20s). That itself is fine- what's more disconcerting, is that most of these guys have long-term relationships with women in much less rigorous professions (i.e. art, high-school teachers, nonprofit work etc.) No disrespect to these professions, and I'm sure they can be fairly challenging because I've worked in some of these fields, but I all in all I see very few of these guys dating women in medicine. From the handful that are, they rarely ever date girls in med school (i.e. there are some in pharm). There's a stark difference in our class with the guys being taken and the girls-- good-looking, clever, and talented-- being single.
In all honestly, it seems like being accomplished has actually HURT our chances, whereas being in medical school has seemingly helped the guys. How do we address this?