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You're not white??Lol, I've never really been anywhere where people have treated me poorly as a population (that I know of -- I mean, they could be flipping me off behind my back).
You're not white??Lol, I've never really been anywhere where people have treated me poorly as a population (that I know of -- I mean, they could be flipping me off behind my back).
You're not white??
That sucks but you're not going to magically make them more willing to speak with you even if you come up with some better material. I am convinced that most of the stories guys tell suck and the only reason any girl would listen to them is because they like the guy despite the stories or they are just trying to be nice. It's not other way around. As a matter of fact most guys I've met who know what they are doing listen more and talk less.Yeah, the problem is I always target the only person I find attractive, so if I move on, I have nowhere to go.
That sucks but you're not going to magically make them more willing to speak with you even if you come up with some better material. I am convinced that most of the stories guys tell suck and the only reason any girl would listen to them is because they like the guy despite the stories or they are just trying to be nice. It's not other way around. As a matter of fact most guys I've met who know what they are doing listen more and talk less.
I am just surprised because of your political views. I guess I shouldn't have been making assumptions in a first place. What are you if you don't mind me asking?I'm not?? (Notice how I didn't answer your question? )
I am just surprised because of your political views. I guess I shouldn't have been making assumptions in a first place. What are you if you don't mind me asking?
I'm ...I'm A HUMAN BEING!!! *sob*
Lol, fight it brother.
That sucks but you're not going to magically make them more willing to speak with you even if you come up with some better material. I am convinced that most of the stories guys tell suck and the only reason any girl would listen to them is because they like the guy despite the stories or they are just trying to be nice. It's not other way around. As a matter of fact most guys I've met who know what they are doing listen more and talk less.
It has nothing to do with the quality of the stories.
It is basic psychology...most people like talking about themselves. If you are a good enabler (without interviewing the girl) she will likely have a good time. Add in a healthy amount of teasing, eye contact, and joking then you will be set for a good date.
Okay so you're basically trying to swim against the current and wonder why you're not getting anywhere. If a girl is not interested in you initially which is evident by her lack of response and not reciprocating your questions, there is absolutely nothing you can do to change it. Despite what many Hollywood blockbusters would have us believe, trying to come up with material to impress someone like that is a waste of your time and will only result in further disappointment.That's my problem, I already know my stories suck, so I just stay quiet. Believe me, I'd be thrilled to just listen (uh ...for a while), but usually that results in both of us sitting in uncomfortable silence.
Again, the conversation is entirely secondary to the first impression based on career, income (potential), and looks. You don't want him to become her court jester or friendzoned cuddlebitch.
Maybe lower your standards. Take risks with women who you think are cute but not exactly your type. And please forget about storytelling. The only people who are actually good at it do comedy for living. 99% of men are not those guys.
What, are you suggesting that I lead with my profession? Because that seems sort of douche-y to me.
Who do you think will draw a woman's attention first/more:
Uh ...the guy on the right is more attractive but he also looks sort of gay. At minimum he's extremely metro.
Also, I don't find Drew Berrymore attractive.
Also, sometimes I think it is your personality. You like to argue a lot, and you're stubborn and disingenuous when people are trying to help you.
Well then you're not ready to be in a relationship. Nobody in this world gets exactly what he or she wants. We all learn to compromise and be happy with what we have or can get. Until you face this truism, you're just going to live in a dreamworld without much shot at a relationship.Eh, I'm not at the point where I'm going to lower my standards, at least in looks. Like I said, most likely my first compromise would be becoming willing to date divorced women (in their 20s who were in shape).
Well then you're not ready to be in a relationship. Nobody in this world gets exactly what he or she wants. We all learn to compromise and be happy with what we have or can get. Until you face this truism, you're just going to live in a dreamworld without much shot at a relationship.
I am sorry if I am coming across rude but this is how I see it especially when you said "pass" on that Jewish girl in a picture even though you though she was cute. Look, I would have jumped on that opportunity even though she is not exactly my type either. Am I more desperate than you or do I have really low standards? Possibly. But I do realize that a person I end up with doesn't have to be exactly my type look-wise. As long as she is cute, I will give it a shot. Why wouldn't I? We may be perfect for each other when we go out in person. Something like that I would never know from looking at a picture. And dismissing her would be a big mistake on my part.
Here's a serious question: How does one lower their standards? Like logistically, in your mind, how do you make it happen? Cuz for me, I have absolutely NO control over who I find attractive. And why would you want to be w/ someone who you're not attracted to?
When someone offers to set you up with his or her friend you say yes instead of no even if the girl in the picture is not exactly your type. It doesn't mean you should just go for anybody. It means that you should be more open to meeting women in general and deciding on how to proceed after you two got to know each other a little better.I know it wasn't directed at me. It's just that I hear that all the time but I never understood how people do it.
When someone offers to set you up with his or her friend you say yes instead of no even if the girl in the picture is not exactly your type. It doesn't mean you should just go for anybody. It means that you should be more open to meeting women in general and deciding on how to proceed after you two got to know each other a little better.
I missed it!
(And I've even posted a pic of myself on this thread!)
What, when did you do that? LIES!
Also, you didn't miss much. As soon as I posted it, "coincidentally" all of the women had to leave immediately.
I was in the picture with my friends!
Oh, you didn't say which you were. Here, I'll PM it to you.
I made a comment about it being a pic of njac and her gratuitous cleavage
If you're not very attractive (and just decent looking) and don't want to show off your job... and not to mention your personality is average (typical guy personality), how do you expect to get a high quality educated chick who's also attractive?
I meant in everyday life too. And most guys have "okay" personalities too.Uhh ...ask Santa Claus??
My personality is OK, but not on online dating sites. It's sort of like hitting on everyone in the world, if you ask me. You don't know who's reading it, or what they're into, or even if anyone is reading it at all. I mean, when I look at a woman's profile, I just look at her pictures and then see what she does or what her education level is. Honestly, I don't care if the rest of her profile is blank. So I have no idea what women are looking at or for. That's sort of why I abandoned online dating.
I'm not putting you down, but you seem like a typical guy minus the surgeon part. If you're not showing off the surgeon part, you'll have to settle for an average chick.
I am also near the Appalachians, TN. I can tell you now that you need to find the public schools in the area and hit on some cute 22-24 year old teachers or public universities. So far, as a an 18 year old male, that is were I have seen the most attractive females. Also, I work at a day care with a good number of single moms and it is definitely not a relationship for the light hearted...though between a surgery resident and raising a child...*thinking*...well..."Knife!". Good luck.
Has this happen to you? Why are you so negative?I think most physicians want someone on their level. A lot of young, dumb, poor girls will date a doctor just to "come up" and spend all his money. They'll lie like they care about him when all they care about is his money.
Has this happen to you? Why are you so negative?
I'm from the type of environment where everybody is poor. The vast majority of girls where I grew up would do anything to land a doctor. ANYTHING.
I think most physicians want someone on their level. A lot of young, dumb, poor girls will date a doctor just to "come up" and spend all his money. They'll lie like they care about him when all they care about is his money.
That sounds like happy fun time to me! (And then dump them immediately.)
Just please, please, please don't get them pregnant. One miscalculated ejaculation = 2 decades at 4ok for child support
Not worth it.
Most young dumb girls don't care about money and are impressed by a guy who has a car lol even if it's a 2002 honda civic. Those girls you talk about.. if they're hot, they'd never sleep with a doctor who's not attractive to them, just cause of money.I think most physicians want someone on their level. A lot of young, dumb, poor girls will date a doctor just to "come up" and spend all his money. They'll lie like they care about him when all they care about is his money.
Where do you live?I'm from the type of environment where everybody is poor. The vast majority of girls where I grew up would do anything to land a doctor. ANYTHING.