Don't you think it's just as disparaging to put down family med and ob-gyn and general surgery as it is to put down small cities? Isn't it okay to have different priorities in life?
I want to clarify that in no way did I put down those specialties. I listed the first few specialties that came to my head that are more common and have a higher number of jobs available in large cities. My point concerned how drastically different these professions are from rad-onc, not that they are somehow inferior. Yes, of course I agree it's ok to have different priorities in life. However, I can't wrap my head around this concept of choosing an entirely different career so you can have easy access to certain "ethnic" foods and restaurants, as you brought up below and was brought up in another post. Seems to be a common concern. I mean, I absolutely love fresh seafood, but it's difficult if not outright impossible to get where I am right now. It's not the end of the world. For reference, Bakersfield has 10+ sushi restaurants from a quick google search. My hometown has none. Sounds alright! And they are hiring! Regarding the also commonly discussed worry about the ethnic diversity of the dating pool, I can see that. I suppose that I am lucky that I am not from a family or culture that pressures me to marry someone of the same ethnicity/race/religion/whatever, nor am I of that mindset, and my SO is a different ethnicity. Your question was whether we would advise M4s to enter this field at this point. If you are not open-minded regarding where you live, what type of food you eat, the background of potential life partners, etc then no absolutely not. We're beating a dead horse at this point.
It's frustrating to watch people in medicine constantly trash talk the places I called home growing up and the people in them. There are good people everywhere, and America as a whole is a great place to live. Talk about first world problems. But I get where you're coming from (kind of). I dislike NYC and LA. But I would try to make them work if I had to rather than bail to a different field or industry. My family went where they had to make a living, and it just always seemed to me like that's part of life if you want to do as well as you can. But in this case, it's not like we are comparing NYC to a town in rural Wyoming with no stoplight and dial-up internet. Could you really not even consider the possibility of trying to make a place like San Antonio, Jacksonville, or Phoenix work (all top 5-15 cities in terms of population)? Philadelphia? Boston? What is it about NYC and LA for some people? I'll never get it.
Maybe to put it in perspective, I had a friend who lived in Bakersfield, CA and had to drive four hours to LA every month to get groceries, since Bakersfield doesn't have a grocery store with her home country's ethnic food (FYI, Bakersfield to LA is only 100 miles, much less than the 300 mile radius criterion). For you, this may not be an issue, but I would definitely reconsider the idea that living in a small city comes with no repercussions whatsoever for some people. I can say many of my friends who are ethnic minorities and have lived in mid sized cities (let alone rural areas) say dating is completely different as compared to a big city. I'm not at all trying to say that small cities suck. It's just that there is a huge detriment to my quality of life such that it would be worth it to consider another field. For me personally, if I can find a job living in a top 10 metro area even with a pay cut and worse hours, I would take it in a heartbeat over a job in a rural town making millions working 30 hrs/week. If rad onc can't give me that opportunity, then I definitely will have to think twice, sadly.