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The fact that the OP expressed suicidality, meant all of us as professionals should have addressed them as a suicidal person we didn't want to be named in a nasty med mal suit, if we were incapable of summoning more kindness at the least.
It's not the first time I've seen people be anything other than diplomatic after a poster has expressed they might harm themselves. Move on to another forum to be sadistic if you read that, please. Plenty of people can take it, but let's not dish it out after someone has said "uncle." In fact, the chances that someone having a career meltdown in medicine is considering hurting themselves should be enough warning to tread lightly.
Err... so? You are a sunshine, flowers, and group-hug person. I get that. I'm not. I'm a tough love, suck-it-up and get through it, and adapt-and-overcome person. Burn away false hope so people can turn their attention in the direction it needs to go.
SDN is one of the few places people in healthcare have to go to get advice on certain topics. It's as though none of you were ever in a situation that made you concerned for your career. (I've read the statistics on % of docs that get named in a medmal suit with little merit, and statistics on how much that can affect a doc's mental health, and more objectively, career and finances.)
And I think that advice should be unequivocal. The utility of SDN as a resource means that we aren't always just talking to the OP, but to the 999 other people in the same situation at the OP who come through to find help in their situation. Is the the 1 time out of 1000 that I'll be wrong? Well, odds would say no. But even if it is, then the advice is spot on to the other 999 people.
If the OP was your relative how would you like physicians to address them formally or informally after expressing suicidality?
I am not the OP's doctor. I have no physician/patient relationship with them. I'm a guy on the internet.
This oath of brotherhood and whatnot that you talk about... My oath is to my patients and this person isn't my patient. I don't take my doctoriness into every facet of my daily life. I don't go out of my way to be mean to people but I don't pull my punches either. I find more value in straight talk, rather than trying to couch things in a way to save someone's feelings.
EDIT: and delivery matters.
Indeed. Please don't preach to us like we're a group of 5 year olds. You're not my doctor either.