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I've been with my SO for about a year. I'm in medicine and he is not. The relationship is very healthy and positive. I don't have a crazy schedule, but I always seem to be preoccupied with something to do. Studying, research stuff, housecleaning, bills. Never ends. In contrast, he lives with his parents and doesn't need to worry about bills, housecleaning, or food shopping. When he spends time at my place, the only thing that bugs me is that he is completely at leisure. Either playing Scrabble online or watching TV/movies at long stretches. For me, if I'm at his place, I always have work with me in case there is down time. Weekends are pure pleasure for him, while I'm trying to please by joining in on parties, etc while despairing about my undone errands/laundry. The words "I have to..." just never, ever come out of his mouth.
I'm not sure what is 'normal' for a nonmedical partner who hasn't been in this crazed quest for knowledge for so many years. I kind of wish he would be reading books in his spare time instead, or doing extra freelance work to supplement his job in case he gets laid off, or learning a new language or how to invest in the stock market. I guess I never see him working or challenging himself or bettering himself unless he's actually at his job. He is, however, athletic and works out on days we aren't together. Very, very smart, but not academic per se.
On that note, what do your medical spouses/partners do when they have free time, assuming they are a pathologist or something with a non-crazy schedule? I've never dated a medical person.
I'm not sure what is 'normal' for a nonmedical partner who hasn't been in this crazed quest for knowledge for so many years. I kind of wish he would be reading books in his spare time instead, or doing extra freelance work to supplement his job in case he gets laid off, or learning a new language or how to invest in the stock market. I guess I never see him working or challenging himself or bettering himself unless he's actually at his job. He is, however, athletic and works out on days we aren't together. Very, very smart, but not academic per se.
On that note, what do your medical spouses/partners do when they have free time, assuming they are a pathologist or something with a non-crazy schedule? I've never dated a medical person.