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I agree with you, for the record.It’s not solving a problem if the solution someone offered you isn’t a solution. I still think people shouldn’t completely breakdown and stop functioning when such event occur, yes, one should take time for themselves but if they have other responsibilities, there should be a plan for them especially if other people is relying on you doing your job. I guess what I believe in is that you should take care of yourself, but be mindful of the consequences of you action and plan accordingly. We will just have to agree to disagree.
I went to work just a couple days after my dad died this December. No option not to - my work gave me a couple shifts of bereavement pay, after that, I was expected to be there, and expected to do my job. I was fine through the beginning of my shift, fine with my patient crashing and coding, fine with the flurry of procedures that followed - until his family arrived, and talked about how awful it was to lose their dad. That hit me a little too hard, since I knew intimately what that felt like and was still struggling with those emotions myself. I excused myself, stepped out into the hallway, and lost it.
My manager took over until the patient actually died, thankfully, then it was back on me to finish up the documentation, do postmortem care, get the patient to the morgue, etc., which I did with no problem. It was nice to get that ~30 minute break to cry in the break room, but really, I'm aware that was a nice thing she did and she didn't have to. If you're going into the medical field, you've just got to suck it up and get your work done, no matter what just happened to you... if nothing else, this experience is good practice with that for OP.