Plato'sWife said:
I am engaged to a 3rd year and while making wedding plans, I continue to receive a plethora of comments about my upcoming role as "The Doctor's Wife". I am interested to know what others' thoughts are on this term. Is it offensive? Is it an aspiration by some? Is it a way of referencing a bygone era when domesticity governed women? What is it?
Ever since I have earned my D.M.D, I have had a number of men who weren't in the health field who have been on my trail.
Recently, there was a chemist , who was a nice fellow but he was on the rebound after his girlfriend dropped him so we didn't date long. He also seemed to treat me differently (more interested in me) when he found out I was a dentist.
This accountant who occasionally comes to the clinic I work at seemed more interested in me once he found out I was a dentist and suggested we go for a coffee date after work on Saturday. At first he thought I was a dental assistant or hygienist and it didn't occur to him that I was a dentist right away. In any case, I wasn't interested in him.
Today, a fellow I met randomly at a bookstore conversed with me for a good hour at the bookstore café . He asked what I did for a living and when I replied "I'm a dentist", he asked, "as in dental hygienist?" I said, "no, a dentist." I kind of hate when that happens. I didn't ask what his line of work was until he started asking me about my work. It turns out that he studied commerce and is involved with the family business.
This business fellow is kind of cute and was very forward with me . He told me I looked really great despite my not wearing make up
. So I may go out for supper with him this week.
Maybe I should start saying I am a dental hygienist, to see if that changes the way some men perceive me...I will get a kick with that "experiment". I remember one time, when I told someone who volunteered at this senior's home with me that I was a secretary and I had fun playing that role.
On another occasion, when I bought this coffee for a homeless person, I played the role of lab technician. And yet another occasion, I pretended to be a graphic arts designer. I can fool some people
It's not only men, but women who treat me differently (unfortunately, for the worse
) too since I graduated from dental school...and I hate that!
Most of my friends aren't even in my field. None of the boyfriends I have had were in the same field of study as me and I really highly doubt I will ever end up marrying another dentist. I like socializing with people from all walks of life. Variety is the spice of life !
Oh and about my momma and papa... the most important thing for them is that I date/marry a man who loves me,cares for me and makes me happy, regardless of his profession/work.