I know how hard it is to have a LDR. My bf started residency in July on the east coast and I am in the midwest. I am a non-trad. (26 yo) and will be STARTING med school next fall. Since he is doing a prelim year, he has to apply for the match again and could end up anywhere. Basically, I have an anxiety attack about it once a day and the only thing that would make me feel better is to have an acceptance in every state
I have one acceptance so far, which is exciting cause it means I'm for sure going to med school
, but I just don't want to be apart from him for another 4 years. We will know our fate in March... it's so hard to wait. I see him once a month and I always fly there cause he's working 90 hours a week (surgery intern year). He's always on call one night during the weekends, which means when I visit I stay in his on call room while he gets paged all night and we attempt to sleep in a twin bed. Then we sleep until mid-afternoon the next day and have one night to spend quality time together. I've been taking off so much work for med school interviews that I can't take more than a Fri. night thru Sun. to visit him, and that's once a month. Luckily my dad is in sales and has let me use lots of frequent flyer flights, or I'd be more broke than I already am from applying
Now that my sob story is done....
...... I can say that it's tough and I'm sad alot, but the fact that we are both extremely busy helps. I don't have (much) time to get insecure and know that he really doesn't have time to find someone else (I know it's silly, even if he did have time, I trust him. But you get crazy thoughts when you only see each other once a month). Even though he's always working he finds a few minutes here and there to call me and it really makes a difference. It makes me feel important and not forgotten and I am a support for him thru one of the hardest years of his life. I'm hoping at the very least that we can be only a few hours apart next year so we can see each other every weekend. In the same city would be ideal. Think good thoughts for me
Just wanted to let you know that you're not alone in the long distance thing
Good luck! If you made it this far, it's going to work out!