Just so you know for the future, if a family wants "everything done," you may not actually have to do literally everything, but you have to provide anything that would reasonably be necessary for support. That does, in fact, include operations, vents, drips, and dialysis. This is not a choice you have and although lawyers are ****heads and a$$wipes, this specifically is not their fault but the fault of ourselves and the often-lame field of medical ethics. Lawyers just hold us to our own stupid laws, generally in a distorted manner to make money, but it's still our own fault.
I hate it when people act like laypersons are completely oblivious to outcomes because they are not physicians. Sure, we obviously have an added level of understanding, but I'm pretty sure that even if you took a high-school kid and showed them some of the people in the ICU they'd be able to figure out that these people generally aren't long for life. And I'm pretty sure they could figure out who was there just for monitoring (e.g., the person sitting around reading a paper who had splenic trauma and was being observed for stability) and who is there because they're about to bite the dust. People who use "they're not doctors" to excuse the deliberate blindness of many of these families are complicit in the problem. Again, you make these people pay for the medical care and all of a sudden they come to their senses and can see things just as clearly as a physician ...amazing!!!!