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priyanka said:hey guys,
I was just wondering whether all the indian parents are the same or am I the only one?
So narrow minded: 1) Not able to accept the transition between india and the US.
2) not interested in learning the new stuff thats in US.
3) my parents dont know how the university works
4) they have this preconcieved misconception that the PEOPLE IN THE US DONT STUDY and that the studies are very easy ...so when me or my sistah get good grades they say : " I know what you study...and I know ur enjoying here just because you have to study less...so dont tell me about it...:"
there's a lot more to add to this but i beter not go there its so inexplicable and complicated
Its so frustrating....forget about someone encouraging me .... they discourage to the rate of infinity and encourage to the rate of negative infinity which is twice the infinity...which accounts to infinity..my head spins... ...
priyanka said:i like the suggestions.//...
believe me or not..i ve tried each one of them...
and i do understand that they want me to be the best....
but then...its ridiculous when they keep doubting me every night i come home they go..
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by the way.. i am so glad you guys responded..thanks tons!
cheers
priyanka said:i like the suggestions.//...
believe me or not..i ve tried each one of them...
and i do understand that they want me to be the best....
but then...its ridiculous when they keep doubting me every night i come home they go..
dad: why are you so late?
me: studying at the library
dad: library closes at 5 what are you talking about..n why were u home at
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the thing is..i cant imagine spending my life in any other profession...i dont think nething else is as challenging...interesting..there is no other enviorenment but a hospital that can keep me awake even if i havent slept for days...its the only profession for me ...and i will not lie...but..i so want the dual thing...1)cardio surgeon( i am not sure about cardio..i love it but i notice i ve started loving neurosciences immensely) and 2)money- as well... if it was only for money i would have gone for business..if it was only patient care i could have become a nurse...but unfortunately i am selfish and i need both equally....
by the way.. i am so glad you guys responded..thanks tons!
cheers
priyanka said:I wish it was exaggerating and not an under exxagerating...
neway...i was trying to delete this thread all together but I couldn't figure out how to..I did not really intend to get attention...just spitting out...you know a normal human cant contain a lot of happiness or sadness or any other emotion within one self for long...some scream..some yelll...and others..like me talk to mentors or friends to let it out...this time it was this site...
I probably shouldn't have started the thread..but .. i did so well..
Anyway, its a request to please stop replying to this thread. Let this be the last message...Thanks for everything. You guys will make great doctors or I think some of you already are..way to go... I won't be logging in for some days..so don't feel that I am rude if I dont reply.
THANKYOU.
Priyanka.
priyanka said:oops..Error..:-I wish was exaggerating*
vikaskoth said:i definitely think girls probably have it rougher with more conservative indian parents. If that conversation is close to real and not an exaggeration, I feel for you. My parents usually get off my back if i am doing well in school, they have nothing to fuss about. My mom wishes she had a daughter to spoil but she would also drive her mad with her outdated ideas. I had it a little easier because my brother would make trouble and he prepared my parents for what i would want to do as far as going out to parties etc.. in high school. He broke them in.
priyanka said:what the hell...
OK ... i cant rest without correcting this...
priyanka said:Geminis have some very unique characteristics which often go undetected by people. The modest creatures that we are, we dont explain them our "uniqueness". We simply go on adapting to the new situations and surroundings.... Hmm I dont know how many geminis agree with this?
It goes without saying that each zodiac has its uniqueness. And in many cases, this uniqueness undergoes alteration, so its understandable why zodiacs dont seem authentic and genuine to many people. Not that I am an hardcore believer either, but as far as Geminis are concerned, I find a pattern. So my hypothesis about Geminis might well be valid to a certain extent.
DoctorMalki said:My mom is a gemini !! I think geminis do very well to adapt to their situations. Oh the reason I asked if you were a virgo was because you really tried to fix the error you made earlier and virgos are known to be perfectionists... I am a libra btw
DoctorMalki said:My mom is a gemini !! I think geminis do very well to adapt to their situations. Oh the reason I asked if you were a virgo was because you really tried to fix the error you made earlier and virgos are known to be perfectionists... I am a libra btw
priyanka said:Dr. Malki, Am sure that you and your mom get along extremely well.
By the way are you a doctor already?
priyanka said:Geminis have some very unique characteristics which often go undetected by people. The modest creatures that we are, we dont explain them our "uniqueness". We simply go on adapting to the new situations and surroundings.... Hmm I dont know how many geminis agree with this?
Now if we could only do some sort of doctoral thesis on this......after all publications are supposed to help us get in.priyanka said:Geminis have some very unique characteristics which often go undetected by people. The modest creatures that we are, we dont explain them our "uniqueness". We simply go on adapting to the new situations and surroundings.... Hmm I dont know how many geminis agree with this?
It goes without saying that each zodiac has its uniqueness. And in many cases, this uniqueness undergoes alteration, so its understandable why zodiacs dont seem authentic and genuine to many people. Not that I am an hardcore believer either, but as far as Geminis are concerned, I find a pattern. So my hypothesis about Geminis might well be valid to a certain extent.
KNightInBlue said:Now if we could only do some sort of doctoral thesis on this......after all publications are supposed to help us get in.
NYCDesi said:Me : "I got waitlisted at school XYZ"
Parents : "That's a STATE school? I thought state schools are supposed to prefer in-state residents! And you still couldn't get in???"
Me: "Mom, dad, it doesn't work that way. I mean look at school ABC. It's also a state school, but of a neighbouring state, which would make me an out-of-stater and I still got in there"
Parents: "That's different! Out-of-state students must pay a larger tuition. That's why they took you!"
Me: "....?????....."
Like I mentioned in a previous post, you just have to do your own thing and not let them get you down. If its bad news, sweep it under the rug. If its good news,well........ they might end up comparing you to other students anyway so its your call whether you choose to divulge that info or not.
Basically, try to float under their radar as much as possible and look for encouragement elsewhere....siblings, cousins, friends.
priyanka said:Dr. Malki, Am sure that you and your mom get along extremely well.
By the way are you a doctor already?
Buckeye(OH) said:My parents have been married/in this country since 1973. I wasn't born unitl 1981, so fortunately for me, they had most of the Indian-ideals washed away. What helped even more is that my dad did his graduate education in this country so he understood how are system works.
Since my parents have now spent the majority of their life here, they are definately about as Americanized as you can be. So much so in fact, that my mother was dreading her recent trip to India.
There is one thing that I am catching hell for. I applied to both MD and DO schools. I have already been interviewd/accepted at a few DO schools and they keep saying, "well it would be nice if you got into an MD school also."
That really irks me, but whatever.
Adrian,
Good for you! And you can't complain..you certainly should consider MD as your first preference because not only your parents, but every Tom, Dick and Harry know that it is the better one. I was laughing when you said, "my mom is dreading a trip to India" haha. Nevertheless, I'm sure she'll love it!
Good Luck!
priyanka said:Adrian,
Good for you! And you can't complain..you certainly should consider MD as your first preference because not only your parents, but every Tom, Dick and Harry know that it is the better one.
ice_23 said:Uh oh priyanka...you'd better not post this in the DO lounge...
-Ice
Buckeye(OH) said:There is one thing that I am catching hell for. I applied to both MD and DO schools. I have already been interviewd/accepted at a few DO schools and they keep saying, "well it would be nice if you got into an MD school also."
DoctorMalki said:I personally don't think being a DO is inferior to being an MD. You do the exact same thing. you still get to see patients and are active in improving their health. It's all about prestige fror some people ..... If that's what is imporatnt to you then that's your own opinion but to say that MDs are better than DOs is probably not a fair statement. Just my two cents.
Buckeye(OH) said:Part of the problem is that India doesn't recognize DO's as physicians, thus, they don't have any practice rights in India.
Adrian
DoctorMalki said:do you want to practice in India in the future?
priyanka said:oh damn,
i really dint mean to say that DOs are inferior to MDs, Maybe it sounded like that.
I was just trying to have Adrian look at the positive side of the situation.
I wouldn't mind personally if I get into DO or MD and unlike Adrian's parents my parents wont ask me "why dint you get into a MD school but a DO school" because apparently they don't know the difference. Adrian's parents do and as far as I think indian children should make their parents happy whether its right or wrong by not regreting, what they expect from us, but just looking at the positive side of it and accepting it, thus going for it..
Come on you guys taught me this(dont get discouraged) , I am giving it back.. Seriously I dont consider DO to be inferior!!
this shows how different parents react differently its so wierd......
Buckeye(OH) said:Well, like I said, I applied to both. Where else I get in, in terms of MD schools is out of my hands at this point.
Adrian
Premedtomed said:hey Adrian, are you a Christian? i have an Indian friend named Adrian and he's Christian
Buckeye(OH) said:Yeah, I am Catholic. Please don't tell me your name is Ramesh.
Adrian
Buckeye(OH) said:Yeah, I am Catholic. Please don't tell me your name is Ramesh.
Adrian
Premedtomed said:Naah Siddharth, close enough haha
Buckeye(OH) said:Well, it was just ironic that you asked that because A) I have an Indian friend and B) He's in medical school, and C) he obviously has a Christian friend named Adrian.
Wow, ironic.
priyanka said:hmm people should understand HUMOR! - its not all about med school
Premedtomed said:Of course we all do.
Back to the topic of this thread.
My parents have never forced me to do one thing or the other since none of them is a doctor. My relatives being an overly interested in my life as they are
were more discouraging than other wise. I have had to pull n push my way through on my own. I can't wait to go to medical school !
Quite the opposite, isn't it Priyanka?
I would never force it upon my kids, if I ever have any i.e. if I can ever find a chick, any chic, Indian chicks are snobby
waaaah why did I move to the US