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Ok...I feel a little foolish... but maybe someone else has felt the same way as I do and can give some advice, so here goes.
My husband is a pre-med bio student in his last semester, and I am working to support him through his undergrad and beyond. Its been a little challenging at times, it feels like we live in two different worlds, which actually we do. He is a student, slightly older than the student crowd (hes 24) but essentially everyone he is around on a daily basis is younger, and single. I guess you could say I am in the real world Im 26 and the youngest person that works at my company. I try to relate to him, what hes going through, after all I was a student too before, and he tries to relate to me, but lets face it when all you do is work 10-12 hours a day at an engineering firm you dont really have anything interesting to say. What Im getting at is he has many new friends in which he studies with and spends a great deal of time with at school. They are all younger and mostly female. He is a very outgoing and friendly person with everyone, and everyone is naturally drawn to him because he is such a fun guy. But I cant help but feel a little left out and jealous of his study buddies I try to be supportive of him and his friends, I bring them food a t the library when they are studying late at night and whatnot, but I feel a little awkward as the wife. He tries to include me with them sometimes, arranging to meet all of his study buddies at a bar or something, but I feel like an outsider with nothing to contribute to the chummy conversations about their professors and funny class antidotes. Ultimately I feel a jealous of the girls he actually spends more time with than me because of our schedules. (It doesnt help that they are usually younger than I and attractive). I know I have nothing to worry about, my husband is very loyal to me, but I cant help feeling this way sometimes because after all I was the original study buddy. Thats how we met in college. Lately Ive been able to shrug it all off and forget about it but yesterday he actually missed a meeting with his pre-professional advisor about his applications because he was celebrating a good test score over some beers with some of his study partners.
I dont know what to make of how I feel, or how to make the situation any better. Am I just being completely immature and a psycho-jealous female? Or are my feelings similar to anyone elses? If Im crazy Ill at least know where to start to start fixing the problem!
Any advice would be appreciated!
My husband is a pre-med bio student in his last semester, and I am working to support him through his undergrad and beyond. Its been a little challenging at times, it feels like we live in two different worlds, which actually we do. He is a student, slightly older than the student crowd (hes 24) but essentially everyone he is around on a daily basis is younger, and single. I guess you could say I am in the real world Im 26 and the youngest person that works at my company. I try to relate to him, what hes going through, after all I was a student too before, and he tries to relate to me, but lets face it when all you do is work 10-12 hours a day at an engineering firm you dont really have anything interesting to say. What Im getting at is he has many new friends in which he studies with and spends a great deal of time with at school. They are all younger and mostly female. He is a very outgoing and friendly person with everyone, and everyone is naturally drawn to him because he is such a fun guy. But I cant help but feel a little left out and jealous of his study buddies I try to be supportive of him and his friends, I bring them food a t the library when they are studying late at night and whatnot, but I feel a little awkward as the wife. He tries to include me with them sometimes, arranging to meet all of his study buddies at a bar or something, but I feel like an outsider with nothing to contribute to the chummy conversations about their professors and funny class antidotes. Ultimately I feel a jealous of the girls he actually spends more time with than me because of our schedules. (It doesnt help that they are usually younger than I and attractive). I know I have nothing to worry about, my husband is very loyal to me, but I cant help feeling this way sometimes because after all I was the original study buddy. Thats how we met in college. Lately Ive been able to shrug it all off and forget about it but yesterday he actually missed a meeting with his pre-professional advisor about his applications because he was celebrating a good test score over some beers with some of his study partners.
I dont know what to make of how I feel, or how to make the situation any better. Am I just being completely immature and a psycho-jealous female? Or are my feelings similar to anyone elses? If Im crazy Ill at least know where to start to start fixing the problem!
Any advice would be appreciated!