I gotta admit, I'm starting to get worried about next year because I haven't seen anyone post anything about homosexual relationship possibilities during medical school. As a single male, am I likely to find many guys like me in med school? Are homosexuals a URM in medicine? Do your schools have many/any openly gay students?
Please, don't remind me about being the "only one". I've been worried about that for a long time. I've shadowed/been around TONS of doctors during my high school/premed years, and I've never even heard about a gay doctor, much less known one.
Don't be silly, you definitely will not be the only one.
I've worked closely with 3 gay physicians, 1 openly gay resident, and known 6 gay med students without even trying very hard.
Most physicians and med students don't seem to announce it - it just kind of comes up in the course of conversation. Just as other people mention that they had dinner with their spouse, etc., these people mentioned that they were going to visit their partner's family for the holidays, or something like that. No big deal.
One of the gay physicians that I've worked with met his partner while he was in med school - and he went to school in the south as well. And, considering that he's in his 40s, you have to imagine that it was a LOT more conservative then than it is now. So it's definitely possible. I think, like anything else in medicine, if it's important to you, you will make time for it. So if finding a dating partner is important to you, you'll make time for it.
But, I have to say that there is one big advantage about dating women in medicine...they are more likely to understand what you're going through and you share a passion. You can talk about things in medicine, and not only can she understand what the mother you're talking about, but she is more likely to empathize and relate to it.
Also holds true for female med students dating male med students. It's a huge relief to be able to talk about your day and actually have him understand your weird jargon.
On the other hand, the mystique is kind of lost when you stay inside the pond. There's a certain amount of allure that the non-medical world has for us. So, I would venture that you could score more "I'm-the-man" points with a non-medical chick.
If you want a "non-medical chick" who is so feeble minded to think that "You're-the-man" just because you're in med school, go right ahead.
I dated a non-medical guy once. He spent the entire evening trying to discuss the state of health care in this country, and once (non-sarcastically) referred to the "lives that I've saved." What lives? I was an MS2 at the time.
It gets old kind of fast.
wow this foruming is scaring me. Debating on moving in w/ my amazing b/f. I don't want to mess things up. Entering MS1
Hold off until MS 2 or at least the second semester of MS 1 - just to allow yourself time to get into a studying groove. That way, he'll also have an idea of what your schedule will be like, etc.