In the community, I've called ortho for a dislocated carpal with an associated fracture - and I was fine with splinting it that evening and having her see ortho in the morning (about 9 hours later). I have a CT surgeon that will cut neck to nuts - my medical director tells a story of how she had a woman with vag bleeding that wouldn't stop and some other stuff that meant she needed an immediate hysterectomy (don't recall the details); the women's hospital in town wasn't answering, and we didn't and don't have ob/gyn. This CT surgeon was ready - seriously - to do the hysterectomy. And this isn't some fossilized old surgeon. I call neurology, and I have someone there (from the community - not in house). ENT, likewise. Hell, I have my choice of two ID guys.
In the community, no one gives pushback (except for IM hospitalists formerly at my hospital and one peds hospitalist at the children's hospital - go figure). There's even the famous "I'm not comfortable with that" - I butchered a woman with a groin abscess in the past (not in residency, after), and that burned my confidence. Last pt I had with one, the surgeon was more than happy to come in and cut her (got 10mL pus out), and gave me no slack.
So, residents who either enjoy reaming other residents, or feel that it is their duty (like "this will hurt me more than it will hurt you", before they spank you) are either learning badly, or are enjoying it while they can, 'cause, post residency, as has been said, you live on this. Give me a hard time even once, "abuse me", whatever, and I tell my medical director, and you never get a consult from me again. There is one urologist in town that is +5 for referrals from me, because his competition is a total ***** (ironic, being urology). The comp gets no referrals, and no business, from me, and I'm there 25% of the time. I'm not sure he's even doing surgery at our hospital anymore.
Tired is right (even though I called him an idiot 4 years ago, and an overzealous SDN power-hungry mod dinged me for it - even though you can't - and couldn't - see it anymore), and listen to him (or don't, at your peril). Don't hate the playa - hate the game.