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I'm in medical school and started my 3rd year a couple of months ago. I've been with my girlfriend for over 3 years now. She lived over here with me during my first two years of school. Now she's starting her first year of medical school. The problem is that I go to school in California and she's going to med school in Louisiana.
Don't get me wrong. I'm really happy for her. She really had her heart set on medical school so I'm glad she got in and is going to be able to do what she wants with her life. But the distance is so hard. We're over 2200 mi away so it's not like we can see each other on the weekends. Plus with 3rd year rotations...yeah.
I'm so miserable. My appetite has practically vanished. I've lost weight. I'm having problems sleeping. I feel okay when I'm at school or the hospital because I'm kept busy and surrounded by people. But when I come home...that's when it starts. It's been a few weeks since she moved so I thought that I would be feeling a little better by now, but I'm not. I'm actually feeling worse. I occasionally talk to some of my buddies about it but they don't really get it. I can't blame them though since they've always had their girlfriends or wives nearby. They told me that I should "man up" and use this opportunity to meet new people. They make it seem like I should just break up with her. I don't want to.
We've put so much into the relationship and I really don't want to call it quits due to the distance and I don't want to go on "break" (whatever the f*** that means). I'm hoping and praying that I'll be able to do my residency at the school she's at but that's still 2 years away and there's the huge possibility that I won't be able to. Then it will be more years separated.
I really don't know what to do or how to feel.
Don't get me wrong. I'm really happy for her. She really had her heart set on medical school so I'm glad she got in and is going to be able to do what she wants with her life. But the distance is so hard. We're over 2200 mi away so it's not like we can see each other on the weekends. Plus with 3rd year rotations...yeah.
I'm so miserable. My appetite has practically vanished. I've lost weight. I'm having problems sleeping. I feel okay when I'm at school or the hospital because I'm kept busy and surrounded by people. But when I come home...that's when it starts. It's been a few weeks since she moved so I thought that I would be feeling a little better by now, but I'm not. I'm actually feeling worse. I occasionally talk to some of my buddies about it but they don't really get it. I can't blame them though since they've always had their girlfriends or wives nearby. They told me that I should "man up" and use this opportunity to meet new people. They make it seem like I should just break up with her. I don't want to.
We've put so much into the relationship and I really don't want to call it quits due to the distance and I don't want to go on "break" (whatever the f*** that means). I'm hoping and praying that I'll be able to do my residency at the school she's at but that's still 2 years away and there's the huge possibility that I won't be able to. Then it will be more years separated.
I really don't know what to do or how to feel.