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Client says she thinks she was 5 or 6 when her father and her french kissed, she believes more than once. Does not remember it being traumatizing or forced at all. Did not understand it was inappropriate until much much later.
Despite claiming the memory is not traumatic to her, client appears embarassed when discussing it, and also claims that the reason she barely ever sees her father is that she does not want to and experiences intense discomfort and "awkwardness" around him (which she attributes to feeling guilty about how he was treated by her abusive mother growing up, and how she was too scared to ever defend him even though she knew he was being abused by client's mother -- client also reports being forced as an adolescent to demean and belittle father during her mother's rages at him, and to call family members and say bad things about her father, which she hated and did not believe but did to protect herself from her mother's extreme rage)
Client expresses confusion that it "never went further" with her father. And feels that french kissing isn't serious enough to warrant serious attention, but also admits to feeling uncomfortable about it. Has tried to remember more and admits that it would almost be a relief if something else had happened because it would justify her discomfort around him.
Client reports always being closer to mother, despite her mother being unstable and abusive and her father being "always kind." Client also reports that father once claimed his own father raped his sister (client's aunt) as a child. But apparently father later retracted statement.
Does any of this sound typical to you? I have never had a case like this.
Client's main issues and goals revolve around self worth (extremely low at the moment), developing boundaries (nonexistent right now), and distancing from abusive, enmeshed relationship with mother, but also feels very confused about what happened with her father and unsure how to navigate relationship with him in the present. Frankly, I am confused too. How would you handle?
Despite claiming the memory is not traumatic to her, client appears embarassed when discussing it, and also claims that the reason she barely ever sees her father is that she does not want to and experiences intense discomfort and "awkwardness" around him (which she attributes to feeling guilty about how he was treated by her abusive mother growing up, and how she was too scared to ever defend him even though she knew he was being abused by client's mother -- client also reports being forced as an adolescent to demean and belittle father during her mother's rages at him, and to call family members and say bad things about her father, which she hated and did not believe but did to protect herself from her mother's extreme rage)
Client expresses confusion that it "never went further" with her father. And feels that french kissing isn't serious enough to warrant serious attention, but also admits to feeling uncomfortable about it. Has tried to remember more and admits that it would almost be a relief if something else had happened because it would justify her discomfort around him.
Client reports always being closer to mother, despite her mother being unstable and abusive and her father being "always kind." Client also reports that father once claimed his own father raped his sister (client's aunt) as a child. But apparently father later retracted statement.
Does any of this sound typical to you? I have never had a case like this.
Client's main issues and goals revolve around self worth (extremely low at the moment), developing boundaries (nonexistent right now), and distancing from abusive, enmeshed relationship with mother, but also feels very confused about what happened with her father and unsure how to navigate relationship with him in the present. Frankly, I am confused too. How would you handle?
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