4 years ago, when I started my college studies, I went to a new years party with my parents. At the party, there was this woman who's daughter was in my same age-grade; my peer. Anyway, the woman began a conversation with me that began nice enough, but then she started cutting me up very subtly, about how her daughter's classes in Harvard were so hard and how I couldnt' possibly understand since i go to a state college.
The conversation stuck with me...and I went through all four years of college thinking I was worthless. I knew my reasoning was flawed, and that it was all just some malevolent words from someone really peripheral and unimportant in my life...but I couldn't help it.
Anyway, the woman is friends with my mother. My mother was having dinner with her, and the woman asked my mother about me. My mom told her I was finishing college, and then the woman pressed the issue and my mom told her I was applying to medical school. Long story short, the woman ended up bullying my mom into revealing my stats--MCAT, GPA, etc. Meanwhile the woman remains close-mouthed about her daughter--saying that she was going to take a semester off or something (despite oringinally being gung-ho about medicine).
I feel like my whole community just judges me based on grades and my alma matter. So many people who aren't my well wishers want to know my stats--and it makes me feel like i'm not a person. I wish my parents weren't so open, its not really their information to divulge. Why should someone who doesn't have any warm feeling towards me know my mcat score and GPA? Nothing good can come out of it.
I don't know who said it on SDN, but it was really apt. One thing that spreads around fast in south-asian communiies is who had sex with whom and mcat scores. I don't think my mom meant any harm--but some people just shouldn't know my stats. Certainly not people who look down on me for not going to Harvard.
The conversation stuck with me...and I went through all four years of college thinking I was worthless. I knew my reasoning was flawed, and that it was all just some malevolent words from someone really peripheral and unimportant in my life...but I couldn't help it.
Anyway, the woman is friends with my mother. My mother was having dinner with her, and the woman asked my mother about me. My mom told her I was finishing college, and then the woman pressed the issue and my mom told her I was applying to medical school. Long story short, the woman ended up bullying my mom into revealing my stats--MCAT, GPA, etc. Meanwhile the woman remains close-mouthed about her daughter--saying that she was going to take a semester off or something (despite oringinally being gung-ho about medicine).
I feel like my whole community just judges me based on grades and my alma matter. So many people who aren't my well wishers want to know my stats--and it makes me feel like i'm not a person. I wish my parents weren't so open, its not really their information to divulge. Why should someone who doesn't have any warm feeling towards me know my mcat score and GPA? Nothing good can come out of it.
I don't know who said it on SDN, but it was really apt. One thing that spreads around fast in south-asian communiies is who had sex with whom and mcat scores. I don't think my mom meant any harm--but some people just shouldn't know my stats. Certainly not people who look down on me for not going to Harvard.