Stellamaris
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I am writing from a place of utter desperation , darkness and disappointment . I am a third year resident in a good IM program not the best but far better than most . I suck at everything
Many many days I feel like I know nothing , I can’t come up with a good plan. I have difficulty synthesizing the information quickly enough. I can’t recognize turn subtle turn in events. My organizational skills suck. I am failing miserably in life right now.
My work life has been taking a hit for the longest. The only reason i am still in residency is because people realize I work hard and I am in general a nice person . So I am the sympathy resident , which in and of itself is crushing to my soul . My interns don’t look up to me, they challenge my decisions or question my decisions. Sometimes they say it , sometime it is unspoken but felt. What I say carries no weight .
They gravitate to my 2nd years. My 2nd years never inform me or keep me in the loop like they do with the interns and each other , I guess my ****ed up ness have made me so minuscule in their eyes that I don’t even matter. I don’t think it is intentional but I am often fishing for what goin in , whereas others just casually update each other , and even nurses do the same.So when things happen I feel like I am a step behind . It is a vicious cycle of self doubt
I am the **** show , nurses kind of hang around during rounds to see what beating I will get from attending . I open my mouth to present and I am a rambling , haphazard mess. I usually have to write everything down so I remember what to say and not mix up the patients .It usually does not start that way but somewhere in the process, I have done something that I was not supposed to do or did not do something I should have done .In a calm or less pressure environment or when talking to colleagues I present well and succinctly but something about official rounds or a consultant walking up to me unexpectedly and I am like huh huh huh? I am constantly reminding my self why is the patient here , what are we doing . Without my notes , I am nothing
I am the laughing stock , I feel like my reputation precede me. I feel like when I work with people ... actually I know that when I work with other residents and attending , every info I give is double checked because there is no trust . I am that resident that walks into the room and people go oh God .
This is the second time I have thought about leaving medicine but the truth is I love medicine . When it clicks it feels wonderful, but the problem is it doesn’t very often. My knowledge base is still building up. Eventually it does but...At this point , I am working like an EM physician let’s rule out causes that can kill this patient and go from there . UpToDate is my friend even though I feel like a quack for using it especially infront of people.I can’t deal with the acuity of hospitalist medicine right now because of this knowledge gap ,even if that’s what I love and want to do . I feel like I need 4 years of residency to feel competent and confident . I have given up so much o get here and now I am blowing it.
The truth is I am a slow learner. Its hard for me to retain things. I mean I am not completely brainless but I have tried and still trying tricks to retain info. I was a good student in medical school , passed all my boards but truth is I feel like I am still an advanced intern/PGY2 level. I study and then miss the diagnosis in an actual patient ... wtf. I learn best when people explain why , breaking it down, reason behind actions, but people usually don’t take the time to do that . I NEED a coach / tutor someone to bounce things and thought process with.
All this have made my work life unbearable . I can’t truly connect with my colleagues , I can’t be my true bubbly self at work because I am so conscious of my actions, mistakes and people ‘s perceptions of me. I am tired of confiding in close friends and family . I have burdened them enough. I have no friends at work , I mostly connect with all the other struggling residents. I need a therapist Or just leave medicine all together despite the fact I love medicine ... I guess just accept the fact that just because I love it doesn’t mean I am good at it. Maybe explore other options whatever that may be .i am Just venting . If you have kept reading till the end , Thank you and God bless you. Tomorrow is another day maybe it will be better than today.
Many many days I feel like I know nothing , I can’t come up with a good plan. I have difficulty synthesizing the information quickly enough. I can’t recognize turn subtle turn in events. My organizational skills suck. I am failing miserably in life right now.
My work life has been taking a hit for the longest. The only reason i am still in residency is because people realize I work hard and I am in general a nice person . So I am the sympathy resident , which in and of itself is crushing to my soul . My interns don’t look up to me, they challenge my decisions or question my decisions. Sometimes they say it , sometime it is unspoken but felt. What I say carries no weight .
They gravitate to my 2nd years. My 2nd years never inform me or keep me in the loop like they do with the interns and each other , I guess my ****ed up ness have made me so minuscule in their eyes that I don’t even matter. I don’t think it is intentional but I am often fishing for what goin in , whereas others just casually update each other , and even nurses do the same.So when things happen I feel like I am a step behind . It is a vicious cycle of self doubt
I am the **** show , nurses kind of hang around during rounds to see what beating I will get from attending . I open my mouth to present and I am a rambling , haphazard mess. I usually have to write everything down so I remember what to say and not mix up the patients .It usually does not start that way but somewhere in the process, I have done something that I was not supposed to do or did not do something I should have done .In a calm or less pressure environment or when talking to colleagues I present well and succinctly but something about official rounds or a consultant walking up to me unexpectedly and I am like huh huh huh? I am constantly reminding my self why is the patient here , what are we doing . Without my notes , I am nothing
I am the laughing stock , I feel like my reputation precede me. I feel like when I work with people ... actually I know that when I work with other residents and attending , every info I give is double checked because there is no trust . I am that resident that walks into the room and people go oh God .
This is the second time I have thought about leaving medicine but the truth is I love medicine . When it clicks it feels wonderful, but the problem is it doesn’t very often. My knowledge base is still building up. Eventually it does but...At this point , I am working like an EM physician let’s rule out causes that can kill this patient and go from there . UpToDate is my friend even though I feel like a quack for using it especially infront of people.I can’t deal with the acuity of hospitalist medicine right now because of this knowledge gap ,even if that’s what I love and want to do . I feel like I need 4 years of residency to feel competent and confident . I have given up so much o get here and now I am blowing it.
The truth is I am a slow learner. Its hard for me to retain things. I mean I am not completely brainless but I have tried and still trying tricks to retain info. I was a good student in medical school , passed all my boards but truth is I feel like I am still an advanced intern/PGY2 level. I study and then miss the diagnosis in an actual patient ... wtf. I learn best when people explain why , breaking it down, reason behind actions, but people usually don’t take the time to do that . I NEED a coach / tutor someone to bounce things and thought process with.
All this have made my work life unbearable . I can’t truly connect with my colleagues , I can’t be my true bubbly self at work because I am so conscious of my actions, mistakes and people ‘s perceptions of me. I am tired of confiding in close friends and family . I have burdened them enough. I have no friends at work , I mostly connect with all the other struggling residents. I need a therapist Or just leave medicine all together despite the fact I love medicine ... I guess just accept the fact that just because I love it doesn’t mean I am good at it. Maybe explore other options whatever that may be .i am Just venting . If you have kept reading till the end , Thank you and God bless you. Tomorrow is another day maybe it will be better than today.