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I'm not sure if this belongs here, but we'll try.
I'm a student planning on entering into podiatry. I was raised in a very tight-knit family, and my parents' opinions and support are extremely important to me.
First, understand that my original career incentive was very different. I actually was originally going to be an art student. I wanted to be an interior designer. But after serious thought and consideration, I realized that wasn't what I really wanted to do. I think I chose it mainly because everyone said I should be some sort of professional artist/designer.
I realized what I really wanted to do was be a podiatrist. I actually did a hefty amount of research to make sure it was something I wanted to do. My friends, my fiancé, my (ex-)teachers and my dad were all very supportive of the decision. (My dad's exact words: "I think it's a fantastic idea.")
My mom, however, was not. It's even gone past the "unsupportive" level - she's been saying hurtful things like "I don't think you have the guts to handle surgery" and whenever the subject comes up she rolls her eyes and is suddenly completely uninterested. I don't know why, and I don't know what to do. I want her to be supportive so I don't feel stupid when I try to talk to her about it. I can openly talk to my dad about it, but she always wants to cut our conversations short when it's mentioned now.
I don't know why she isn't supportive of my decision, either. I almost feel like it's part of empty nest syndrome - I'm the youngest of five kids (there's a twenty-two year difference between me and the oldest) and it almost seems like maybe she doesn't want to support it because it's a reminder that her baby is all grown up. It's like she thinks if she doesn't support it, she'll change my mind, I won't leave and I can be her baby forever.
I just don't know what to do - I want her to support my decision so badly that just thinking about it makes me cry. Is anyone else in this position?
I'm a student planning on entering into podiatry. I was raised in a very tight-knit family, and my parents' opinions and support are extremely important to me.
First, understand that my original career incentive was very different. I actually was originally going to be an art student. I wanted to be an interior designer. But after serious thought and consideration, I realized that wasn't what I really wanted to do. I think I chose it mainly because everyone said I should be some sort of professional artist/designer.
I realized what I really wanted to do was be a podiatrist. I actually did a hefty amount of research to make sure it was something I wanted to do. My friends, my fiancé, my (ex-)teachers and my dad were all very supportive of the decision. (My dad's exact words: "I think it's a fantastic idea.")
My mom, however, was not. It's even gone past the "unsupportive" level - she's been saying hurtful things like "I don't think you have the guts to handle surgery" and whenever the subject comes up she rolls her eyes and is suddenly completely uninterested. I don't know why, and I don't know what to do. I want her to be supportive so I don't feel stupid when I try to talk to her about it. I can openly talk to my dad about it, but she always wants to cut our conversations short when it's mentioned now.
I don't know why she isn't supportive of my decision, either. I almost feel like it's part of empty nest syndrome - I'm the youngest of five kids (there's a twenty-two year difference between me and the oldest) and it almost seems like maybe she doesn't want to support it because it's a reminder that her baby is all grown up. It's like she thinks if she doesn't support it, she'll change my mind, I won't leave and I can be her baby forever.
I just don't know what to do - I want her to support my decision so badly that just thinking about it makes me cry. Is anyone else in this position?