These are outstanding tips!
I've had to reframe my entire mindset to reverse burnout. As somebody mentioned above, SO much of the patient's satisfaction with their ED visit is completely out of our hands, and trying to spin my wheels to make everybody happy was destroying me.
I've completely shifted my approach and now I FULLY lean into being a waiter/customer service concierge "the patient knows best" kind of doctor and it's made my job a thousand times easier. It's fully on autopilot, I don't even think twice about it, and it makes my day a THOUSAND times easier.
It's zero sweat off my back to order a quick x-ray, or even do a bunch of BS labs. You REALLY want those antibiotics? Okay sure, have a work note with it. You want Mom to be admitted? Okay, let me order a million-dollar work-up, and dictate an easy Level 5 chart. Hospitalist refusing to admit? Not a problem, ally with the patient and family and show them how I'm "pulling favors" to try to get them admitted. Point towards the evil insurance companies as the reason ("I really want your Mom to be admitted too, but doctors no longer make those decisions anymore, let me see what I can do on the backend, I promise we're going to figure something out that works for everybody"), and then coach them up on what to say to the hospitalist when they come down to see the patient after they refuse and I tell them that they at least need to see them before refusing. Easy.
I saw a very helpful PandaBearMD post on Reddit recently (he posts there infrequently with the same classic sage advice) and it changed my perspective and has helped immensely.
Equanimity with the dumpster fire that is EM, stoicism on shift (always), and the One True God is leaving your shift on time. Nothing else is more important!