So my wife is in a graduate program that requires all of her time.
She studies 7 days a week from early in the morning to late in the evening. The only time I get to see her she is resentful, angry, emotional, frustrated, and insensitive. When we do talk, and when she is paying attention, she hangs on my every word and searches for sarcasm so she can get get angry and get into a rage. Most often, when we talk on the phone and she is not paying attention, she admits that she was reading while we were talking calling it "multi-tasking".
She always complains about how bad she has it. I have given her everything to include paying for the car she drives, the 4 bedroom house, the meals, the bills, everything.
When I had a serious knee injury and she basically told me I was on my own and that she didn't have time or energy to concern herself with it.
I constantly take the barbs, insults, slights and return it with love, encouragement, kindness, and anything to make her feel better. Then she tries to bring up things in the past like when I was impatient or not as understanding in which I always apologize. I always take the high road.
Oh, sex is once a month. (which is horrible)
However, she spends all of waking hours outside of class at her friend's house studying. They work in a group and are incessantly together. Over Christmas break the phone would not stop ringing with her friend calling, during time together her friend would call and she'd answer.
I've tried talking with her about it in the past, getting mad and now I'm being 100% understanding and taking the path of loving, forgiving, understanding, and encouraging but now I feel like I am being a doormat. Its like she has no respect for me anymore.
Anyhow, I am concerned if this is a permanent thing? Is this going to be the new wife AFTER she graduates? When people undertake such a huge task like this do they return to being the person they were before OR do they become different forever?
She used to be sweet, quiet, confident, and now she is angry, bitter and full of rage all the time.