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I don't know if this is the right place to ask this, but it's the only place it'll be anonymous so here it goes...
I'm trying to answer the "explain a challenge you faced and how you overcame it" in secondary applications and I have an answer but I don't know if it's appropriate. About a year ago I was sexually assaulted by someone I was really close with and trusted. It was a really hard time for me because since I knew the guy (we'll call him X) we had a lot of mutual friends; I didn't tell any of them what happened, but obviously I stopped hanging out with X which led to arguments and most of my friends sided with X (he's a very persuasive and manipulative guy who is good at looking like the victim even though he's not).
I never talked to the police or anything because, well, it wasn't rape; I had no evidence, and it was my word against his. I felt that going down that road was going to create more harm than help.
It was a hard time for me, but I've pulled myself out of it. I was still in school, and I managed to get a 3.8 the quarter after it happened; I started running again and completed a half-marathon six months later. I guess I'm just saying that the challenge was not blaming myself and accepting that it happened, and I've worked through that. I used to think about it everyday, blaming myself for what happened, and now I lead a life where I don't think about it everyday and I know I did nothing wrong.
I just want some advice on what adcoms might think about this. I'm worried they'll see me as weak because it happened (that's how I saw myself a lot right after it happened, I thought I was weak because it happened, and I guess that fear/idea has come back).
I have a different one if this one isn't acceptable. I just think that this is the biggest challenge I've faced so far, and it's more recent than the other one. However, if the one I've described is going to affect me negatively then I will obviously want to use my back-up.
This is a difficult question because so much depends on your comfort level in talking about what happened. If you put this on your application anywhere, no one will hold it against you, think you are weak, etc. However, they may wish to discuss what happened with you, how you dealt with it, etc. Consider that some of your interviewers may be psychiatrists (or think they are ) and proceed in the interview a bit more personally than they otherwise would.
My general answer would be to use it only if you are really comfortable with discussing it.
I'd be glad to give you further input by PM.