Therapists insert while prone. For anal patients who are overweight I treat supine frog legged (with bubble wrap in skin folds) and therapists also insert.
Also all of my female pelvic RT patients get dilator teaching at their 4 week follow-up.
I really thought somebody would come to my rescue and say "Music Man Stan, you're not crazy, I too was also taught about the benefits of a vaginal cylinder in residency and I too use it after graduating! I support you in my quest to reduce vaginal dryness!"
Alas I stand alone.
Im not going to come to your rescue but I am going to say very clearly, Music Man Stan, you are not crazy. Conceptually, nothing you are considering is wrong. Its just a matter ROI. Your practice is pretty intensive with a relatively unproven benefit. To your credit, I think female sexual health for non-Gyn malignancies is way overlooked and I am very glad to see you thinking so much about it.
Here are my thoughts on the issue:
1) I give every female patient after pelvic RT for Gyn, Anal, Rectal, or bladder RT a dilator and instruct them to use twice per week (if not having regular intercourse)
AFTER any acute effects have worn off. Stenosis (aka fibrosis) is a late effect and there is absolutely no rush to start this.
2) Prepare women for the fact they are likely to experience vaginal dryness. This is a low dose phenomenon and not something I think using a dilator during RT is going to help in any significant way. Lubricants will be their friend in the future.
3) Always remember that premenopausal women are probably going to experience ovarian failure somewhere between 6-12 months after you are done. This should be mentioned before starting treatment and reminded at the end. I really only consider transposition for rectal cancers. Since you cover internal iliacs for essentially all other pelvic diseases, you are hard pressed to sufficiently spare a transposed ovary (at least one in the pelvis which is all our folks do) even with IMRT. And before thinking about even recommending a transposition, think about the kind of chemo they are getting. If they will be getting 8 cycles of FOLFOXIRI...that ship has sailed.
4) There is probably no real reason to send everyone for post-treatment pelvic floor PT. Its a great resource that enough people don't utilize enough, but again the ROI if sending everyone is probably not that high.
Last and most important...
5)
F***ing ask them how their sexual function is during follow up. Unless they are really savvy, it will not cross the mind of a surgical oncologist, med onc, FP, or anyone other than you or (if they have one) a gyn onc. Sexual dysfunction after cancer therapy is normal and usually treatable. The biggest barrier most of the time is just getting someone to recognize it.