there are lots of internists that didn't do peds because they can't outsmart a 2 year old, or out-shmooze a nervous mother.
parents can be a huge pain!!
I am quite good at dealing with unhappy, high maintenance parents of sick infants.
It starts with allowing them to vent. Some people just want to be heard, and have you them tell them that you understand, and were you in their place, you would be upset and nervous too.
I can't tell you how many times, I've been asked to speak with some upset family member, and in 5 minutes I have them eating out of my hand.
The other thing that you can do is to place the burden of good bahavior on them...." I understand how you are upset and nervous, but your sick child needs you to be strong for them. If they see you upset, it will only frighten them"
I could write a book " How to sell refrigerators to eskimos"...actually we did just get a paper accepted called " Whose child is it? Dealing with difficult parents in an NICU setting"
Dealing with the kids is the easy part. Dealing with the parents can be challenging, but it is a learned skill that once mastered, becomes a very valuable asset.
There is nothing wrong with hating peds, or hating parents. You should pick a career that you enjoy, and if parents schmoozing is something you hate, pick another specialty. However, if you think parents are a pain, wait until you are in the adult ICU and you have to deal a room full of sisters fighting about Mom's DNR status!