pruritis_ani said:
Amen. It is the job of the physician to counsel, to provide accurate and non-biased information on ALL of the options, without attempting to bias the patient to the physician's opinion on abortion.
And, call me crazy, but abortion and adoption are pretty different, even in terms of outcomes. Sure, biological mother never "has" the baby, but going through birth and putting up a child for adoption is quite different than going through an abortion. Not every women can go through either one of these. It is a choice that is best determined by the woman, with thoughtful, empathetic and knowledgeable counseling from her doctor.
They are indeed different. Here's the rub: Thoughtful, empathetic and knowledgeable counseling from her doctor is a very high bar indeed.
Each has a vested interest in advocating, either actively or passively. Physicians work in fields they are passionate about and truly believe in, otherwise none of us would put up with the grief we do to be docs.
Here are my observations on how things are really done. When an obstetric ultrasound is done in the office, the monitor is placed so mom and fob, if he's there can see everything. We take great delight at pointing out the fetal heart motion, the head, the arms and feet.
When the same ultrasound is done in preparation for a termination of pregnancy, we carefully shield the ultrasound from the vew of the mother and fob, even if they ask to see the u/s, they are at best strongly discouraged or even outright denied the view. Why the dichotomy? If it is only about the mother's present choice, and not about the (pick your term: ) "products of conception" or "baby", then why do we behave so differently to our patients in the different settings?
Are we being honest counselors? If not, then why not? If so, then doesn't truly informed consent for a surgical procedure (the termination) mandate that we show the woman what exactly we see on ultrasound? That the "products of conception" have hands/heart motion/fingers/head/legs...?
We couch these discussions in arcane medical terms when we have pictures available that we dare not show, lest there be a change of heart at the time of the procedure. We spare the woman undergoing the abortion the trauma of seeing the ultrasound. Or do we?
One last thought and I shall sink back into the background.
We as a society have determined that "medical death" comes at the moment when we can no longer detect measurable electroencephalographic evidence of brain function. Then it is acceptable to cease prolonging the dying process and remove our patients from the ventilators and allow them to pass in peace. Should we not be consistent in our standards? If so, then commencement of life might be defined as the time when fetal brain electrical activity can be measured. Is this the right answer? I don't know and I don't think anybody knows, but at least it would be somewhat consistent.
So, should we not endeavor to select an objectve standard? In med school, I heard a lecturer try to discuss this. A questioner from the audience asked: When does it become alive? Her response: "When the mother thinks it's alive."
I am glad my mother didn't have this attitude, or surely she would have taken me down to the ocean and drowned me on numerous occasions after I was two.
I do not believe we can reasonably argue that the time of commencement of life is a "personal opinion" without great peril.