It would be easier to advise you if we knew where you were at in this process. Some questions
1) How old are you?
2) How are you entering the military? A freshman joining ROTC, a plebe at the Academy, a graduating recipient of an ROTC/Academy scholarship, and college graduate going to ODS are all going to get very different career advice.
3) Where are you at in your pathway to become a doctor? Did you take any premedical courses? All of them? any research experience? Any medical volunteering/shadowing? If you're a college graduate was your GPA and how many credits did you take?
4) When you're talking about settling down and raising a family, do you have a family already? Just a wife? Steady girlfriend? Or is this just all theoretical?
On thing I can talk about now is the rate of divorce in medicine. The statistics concerning physician divorce are interesting. Despite what you may think, divorce in general is less prevelant among physicians than other white collar professionals (including dentists and nurses), which in turn is lower than the divorce rates among people who are less educated, marry earlier, or make less. So no, we do not all get divorced Source:
http://www.bmj.com/content/350/bmj.h706
However its the subgroup analysis that's really interesting. Basically there are 3 scenarios:
1) Doctors who marry doctors: This is a huge chunk physicians, and their divorce rate is one of the lowest of any group in the nation, < 15% based on one survey
2) Male doctors who marry non-doctors: A slightly higher than average divorce rate, but still < 30%.
3) Female doctors who marry non-doctors: A dismally high divorce rate, approaching 50%
So if you can, marry a doctor. If you can't do that, try to be a dude.
There is also the question of whether being a specific KIND of doctor increases the divorce rate. There is some evidence that being a surgeon increases your chance of divorce relative to being an Internist. However there's a real question of whether that's correlation or causation. Source:
http://articles.baltimoresun.com/19...vorce-rate-pediatricians-marriage-and-divorce