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Hi all! I'm new to the forum, just needed someone to vent to. My boyfriend is a 3rd year med student. We've been together for quite some time (5+ years). We've gone through quite a bit together: college, LDR, medschool applications, graduate school for me, and surviving STEP 1. We recently moved in together. My boyfriend is great with helping out around the house and spending some time with me with his busy schedule.
Right now, I'm having a really hard time when discussing our future together. He always said he'd like to wait until after medical school to get married; I didn't feel the same way but I can understand his reasoning. Now that is getting closer to that time, I'm starting to worry he'll never commit. He shrugs it off, says "I don't know" or jokes if I try to bring up getting engaged. It's very hurtful and Im not sure how to have a good conversation about this without feeling like I'm making an ultimatum. A few weeks ago I told him that I was feeling anxious by the fact that he didn't seem to be thinking about moving forward with our relationship, he said he could understand my feelings, however, the conversation ended there.
I havent been able to stop thinking about it since and it's making me feel unhappy and insecure. Any advice? I'm feeling a little stuck. Thanks!
Right now, I'm having a really hard time when discussing our future together. He always said he'd like to wait until after medical school to get married; I didn't feel the same way but I can understand his reasoning. Now that is getting closer to that time, I'm starting to worry he'll never commit. He shrugs it off, says "I don't know" or jokes if I try to bring up getting engaged. It's very hurtful and Im not sure how to have a good conversation about this without feeling like I'm making an ultimatum. A few weeks ago I told him that I was feeling anxious by the fact that he didn't seem to be thinking about moving forward with our relationship, he said he could understand my feelings, however, the conversation ended there.
I havent been able to stop thinking about it since and it's making me feel unhappy and insecure. Any advice? I'm feeling a little stuck. Thanks!