I
assume that you are a Christian fundamentalist
, no I am not. I am a fallen human being. I do not believe in divorce, that does not mean that I will not divorce my spouse, knowing what I am doing IS WRONG. But I might chose to wait till all my children go to collage and then divorce. Since, many children in our country are living a disgusting life due to the
individualistic selfishness, ignorance and stupidity of their parents.
As for abortion, the law will not scare me to change my values. I had several females wanting my approval as their counselor to go ahead and do abortion. I explained to them that they DO NOT NEED MY APPROVAL to do abortion. I explained to them that the law of this land gave them the right to chose to keep the baby/ fetus/ a bunch of cells, whatever they want to call it or abort it. I refer my clients to a counselor who will help them in their process of abortion.
Why
Mr. IvanPavlov do I have to change my values to make my patients happy?! I do the ethical thing is referring them. Some came back to me and said that they wanted to keep their babies, but they cannot afford having them. So, we worked together on open adoption or closed adoption as an option, or family adoption, or guardianship.
I had a client who found out that she is carrying a down syndrome baby. She belongs to one of the prominent well known families in our area. She travels a lot with her husband and the other children,....etc., this child will change her life and her family's life 100%. She did not want abortion, so from the beginning we started on the same page. During therapy, we found several families over the internet who want to adopt down babies. She met them with her husband, ......the child ended up being adopted by one of the families. They exchange photos.
As for rape victims, how sad what we did to these girls in our culture. Girls started learning early on from TV and all the media "every time I see my belly, or the baby moves, I think of the rapist". Yet, in other countries, the victims of rape know exactly how it feels to be a victim, and know exactly the pain of the injustice. Therefore, these girls hide for 9 months worried to victimizing that innocent soul who did nothing to deserve hatred. They end up putting these babies for adoption. In our country, kind of taught our victims how to feel and what to do. Here, we try to fix their trauma of rape by causing another trauma 'abortion'.
You do not know how many women go to counseling crying and saying that they did not know that there are other options. Or, they will say that their parents and the nurse convinced them that abortion is just removing a bunch of cells. Later they find out it was all lies. They come to counseling traumatized for what they have done. We explain about God's love and forgiveness, but they have big problems forgiving themselves. One of my clients even affected me when telling her story, she said " I was laying down with my legs up and I felt a lot of pressure. Then I heard something was put in a bucket, and the bucket moved" Till now she asks herself did the doctor throw her fetus baby in a bucket and let him die? What was that thing in the bucket that was full of blood?!" I honestly do not know since I have no idea how they do abortion and if they used to use bucket or ....
A while back I worked in an inpatient facility for drug and alcohol treatment for girls, who were court ordered to be there. They had to have an Axis 1 diagnosis to be in this facility. Many used abortion instead of a condoms or protection. They used to tell me that that is their right. My answer to them was always them same "
you lose your individual right when you open your legs and say yes to sex". These
kids learn sex before they learn their multiplication or addition. This is a bull**** law of the land, that is why, I stay away from it, NOT just because of relegion, but because it is
unethical and
immoral and
and plain stupidity
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