I liked biscuit's advice. and i'm lovin critical mass' avatars
some more stuff bout questions and what other people said:
the back stabbing happens at certain points. anatomy, when everyone is anal-retentive and scared, some people WILL purposefully teach wrong things to you. that doesn't mean distrust all your classmates. but it is an important thing to look out for. after anatomy, people settle down, become friends, etc. even the really retentive ones quit teaching wrong things, but they pretend not to know answers if you ask them questions. you'll figure it out in due time
it also happens when you have only a few people applying for an ultra-competitive field like, say, plastics. it's not uncommon for one student to badmouth another to a surgeon to score points. this is an important lesson. if you want to show someone else up, DO NOT BADMOUTH THEM. doctors were once students too, and they recognize this as toolishness. instead, outwork them. be more proactive, but don't be an OCD jackass too. you'll learn the line when you begin school. i've had other competitors badmouth me, and doctors actually talk to me about "what their deal is". if you said "theyre anal-retentive" (word of the day), then you're stooping to that level. a more diplomatic answer would be "i'm really surprised he's said that about me, he's been very cordial with me in class and other social events". diplomacy to the doctor, stickin it to the anal-retentive bastardo
anyway, that's a tangent i'm sure most of you will firgure out.
as to losing friends, it depends how many you have, and what terms you are on with them. if you live and die and bleed your heart out to each and every one; yeah, not gonna fly here. i too haven't really lost any friends, but the communication went way down once school started. and theyll never understand why unless theyre here as well.
biscuit said don't study 10 hours in a row at once or you'll waste time. very good advice. but don't let those breaks turn into three hour xbox sessions. mine is an studentdoc forum post. other times it's research, or flipping through NEJM. sometimes i watch part of an operation on OR-live. when you learn to use your breaks constructively, you really start becoming efficient. but i don't know anyone who's been like that from day 1. my first year my break was an episode of family guy. now my breaks are working on research projects that i truly enjoy.
and yes, people study 10 hrs and waste lots of time. that's one thing you have to pick up on immediately. that's why i stress having schedules that you adhere to strictly. for me, i'm up by 5am and in the library by 6am. i'll leave at noon to get lunch, 6pm for dinner. i take ten minute breaks between every lecture i learn. i'm generally done studying by 7-8pm and relax till 10pm by going to the gym, watching a tv show, etc. i'm in bed by 1030. weekends i wake up later and go to bed whenever i want. you need a break! saturday's my break day, sunday's my research day.
also, biscuit's advice on family. family is key in that they are the only people on this planet who truly do care for you. keeping in contact with them on a bi-weekly basis makes you think less about how your normal friends are getting beers right now, and more about how happy your parents are that you're becoming a doctor. yeah yeah, youre in it for yourself, but honestly speaking, that kind of idealistic, lofty sentiment dies in about a month. and making mommy and daddy proud, well, if the motivation comes in little bursts, why not?
in addition, you may be surprised to hear this, but 1st year you have so much free time compared to second year. don't get smashed on friday night. have fun, and try to shadow someone on saturday. have an exam friday? maybe shadow a few hours after the exam. you can still party at night. go to some grand rounds in fields you have interest in.
When i got to school, i had a markerboard hung on my wall with every specialty written out. I crossed things out when I knew for sure i didn't want something. being as open as possible, i only had peds and psych crossed out. i then shadowed, learned more about a field, and checked it if there was interest, or crossed it out if i said no way after shadowing (ie obgyn). within a few months, i knew which grand rounds to go to, who to follow, and who to avoid. by the middle of first year i had research lined up in the fields i was interested in. if you want something competitive, i highly suggest you do this. if you're in school to become a pediatrician, family practitioner, or internal medicine in no particular location, you certainly don't need to do all this. if all you can see yourself doing is ortho, derm, or plastics, i suggest this approach. you'll get exposed to things you may never even have realized you like, and you'll get your connections for research when the time comes.
that brings me to research. again, if you're lookin for something competitive, it's a great idea to get involved. people say don't do it first year. i think you have the most time first year. but that's true ONLY IF YOU GET INTO A SCHEDULE. then you'll know where your free time is and how much time you can put in. second year there are way more lectures and classes and sessions. third year you're in the hospital. fourth year youre applying.
in summation, medical school is tough. your friends will never truly understand until theyre here. but with the right attitude and smart approach, it's possible to do quite well. you just need to prioritize everything in your life, and always keep things in perspective.
example: a friend of mine visited from california on a whim. i didn't know he was in the city till that evening. we were all going to go out. the deadline for an abstract to a national conference was the next day. i stayed in, and worked on it, got it submitted in time. yes, he was pissed at me, but the abstract was selected to be presented as a poster and oral presentation to the society in florida. my friend eventually understood, but if i had missed that deadline...you get the idea
well, that was a long one. good luck to you all, catch ya later