novacek88 said:
I think people take personality for granted and misinterpret what we are talking about in regards to "personality". In regards to personality, it's more than how well you get along with someone, it's also a measure of your character. How late do you stay? How much additional work do you accept? What do your colleagues and attendings think about you? Are you known as a smart, friendly and hardworking person who everyone would love to have on their team? Or are you simply a really cool person that everyone loves at parties but is known for being average to pretty good on the wards?
i completely agree with you novacek....i think people are misinterpretting me also when i say what i said earlier about having people like you....there is ALWAYS the assumption that you have to be good...i think people are taking what i am saying to the other extreme in that, by what i am saying means only that someone is a great party person to have around...that is NOT my intention at all...the things you mention (having people stay longer, take on more responsibility, etc.) is MY underlying assumption that I thought would come across, but I guess it did not so I apologize for that...but the thing that I am trying to get across in terms of having people like you takes the hardworking, staying longer, etc. ALL READY into account...i am talking about the "extra" stuff that pushes you over the edge....let's be honest here, if you and I don't get along and you are the position of "superiority" (i.e. PD, attending, resident, etc.) and I am the position of the lowly student trying to impress you to give me atleast an interview, then if I DO stay there longer and do more work, but nonetheless continue to irritate you, then how would you react...the longer i stay there and the more i am around you, the more you are going to get irritated with me, true?....
i think what i have been saying is being incorrectly interpretted, maybe due to my own lack of clear communication...of course, you have to be hard working and take on more responsibility and do a damn good job in what it is that you are doing...but, there is an ADDED dimension to that, which is the ability to get along with others in that particular program...true...if you are a winning personality, but all you do is slack off, do no work and are killling patients left and right, you become a liability to the department as well and there is NO WAY that they will take you....
i used to be quite introverted and not very "political" and was not able to "schmooze" with people also...i used to be the quiet, hardworking med student who made sure all the orders were written and followed through, all the labs were in, etc...etc...GREAT...BUT, i saw so many students getting ahead of me because they were able to "network" which I lacked....they were also good students but not as "thorough" as I was (once again, please do not take this to the other extreme)...fpr example,. if i was a "A" student, then they were like a B+....not bad, but not as thorough as I was, so why were they getting ahead....b/c people liked them....
it's something that sucks but it is a reality in life....no wonder there's even a cliche: "it's not how much you know, but who you know."
once again (i wanna re-emphasize this) please do not take this to the other extreme in that you know nothing but you still get ahead in life....that's not the case....