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Family medicine is what drew me to medical school in the first place, and I’ve done shadowing and I really enjoy the idea of being an FM physician. I know it’s premature, but right now that’s where my heart is.
The issue is, I will be married most likely by the time I’m done with school (or shortly after), unless my relationship falls apart. My future spouse needs access to an urban area for his career goals. He’s already kind of putting it on hold for me. I don’t want to and can’t end up in a rural area. That means my income will be lower.
We’re also gay, and the prospect of living in the middle of nowhere is scary… it’s hard enough even in more liberal bubbles, I can’t imagine living in a place where we’re rejected by the majority. And we want kids, and I don’t want them to suffer because they have two dads. Yes I’m painting rural areas with a broad brush, but it’s just a consideration.
I will have about $300,000 in debt upon graduation, without financial support from my family (re: I’m gay and rejected). I have no savings, neither does my partner. If we relocate, that’ll be a cost for us to consider and bear.
Of course even the lowest paid FM is going to be making a lot relative to the average income. However, after taxes and loan payments, not much is left every year. My partner’s income is likely to be around $35-40k realistically.
I’m getting extremely overwhelmed, because everyone is like “you’ll be fine, just work in a swamp for 6 years and you’ll be rich!!” but that’s a lot to ask of my partner, and it’s not something I want.
I know you shouldn’t go into medicine for the money, and ultimately I’m not, I’m just genuinely worried I’ll be barely scraping by forever.
The issue is, I will be married most likely by the time I’m done with school (or shortly after), unless my relationship falls apart. My future spouse needs access to an urban area for his career goals. He’s already kind of putting it on hold for me. I don’t want to and can’t end up in a rural area. That means my income will be lower.
We’re also gay, and the prospect of living in the middle of nowhere is scary… it’s hard enough even in more liberal bubbles, I can’t imagine living in a place where we’re rejected by the majority. And we want kids, and I don’t want them to suffer because they have two dads. Yes I’m painting rural areas with a broad brush, but it’s just a consideration.
I will have about $300,000 in debt upon graduation, without financial support from my family (re: I’m gay and rejected). I have no savings, neither does my partner. If we relocate, that’ll be a cost for us to consider and bear.
Of course even the lowest paid FM is going to be making a lot relative to the average income. However, after taxes and loan payments, not much is left every year. My partner’s income is likely to be around $35-40k realistically.
I’m getting extremely overwhelmed, because everyone is like “you’ll be fine, just work in a swamp for 6 years and you’ll be rich!!” but that’s a lot to ask of my partner, and it’s not something I want.
I know you shouldn’t go into medicine for the money, and ultimately I’m not, I’m just genuinely worried I’ll be barely scraping by forever.