Id say that marriage and med school is do-able, but NOT working - especially if you have a family. Ive been trying to juggle this one for awhile now (ok, like 5 months, but still), and its hard. My husband (John) works as an engineer, Im in 2nd year and we have a 9 year old (my step-) daughter (Boo, for anonymity), who lives with us 100% of the time. Here's a typical day:
5:00 am: John gets up, gets ready and does any financial stuff that has to be done.
6:45 am: John leaves for work
7:15 am: Boo and I get up. I make sure she's up, get her breakfast, pack her lunch, make sure she has her books, homework, etc, put her hair up, help with the outfit (its uniform, and she always tries to get around it)., and some days, take out the trash.
8:15 am: Boo's bus picks her up (if its a day I have to be at school by 8, I drop her off at 7:15 and we get up an hour early for that, I have a 30 minute drive to school).
8:15-11:30: My personal hygeine time, and Study time (the ONLY time I can study w/o distractions). Also when I do a lot of chores like laundry, vaccuuming and picking up of junk.
11:30-1:00: Drive to school, eat lunch
1:00-5:00: Classes, lecture and lab
5:30-7:00: Supervise homework, make dinner (JOhn does this sometimes too, though right now he's doing a bunch of home-improvement stuff, so I do).
7:00-8:00: Eat dinner
8:00-9:30: Supervise shower, hair drying, tooth brushing, face washing, and read bedtime story.
9:30-11:30: Time to spend with John, talking about days, etc, working on our relationship.
Then we crash and the whole mess repeats itself.
Weekends are spent catching up on stuff we've neglected (usually laundry and housecleaning). If it's right before an exam, I leave to study (go to Starbucks), since Boo usually has a friend over, and there's lots of shrieking. However, that means that stuff doesnt get done.
I have NO idea where holding down an extra job would fit in, unless it was morning work-study where I could do homework while working.
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