if person 'a' cannot lift the required minimum to be a UPS driver, etc, does that mean they have a muscular disability?
Let me start by saying as far as labor law goes, I'm a reasonably conservative person. I sit in seminars and hear them talking about updating the FMLA to include time for parent/teacher conferences, requiring PTO for companies with 15 people and I think to my self "Sweet God...this'll be the end of American small business". But I guess my liberal streak really shows through when dealing with people with "disabilities".
There's something called dispaired impact...or despaired impact, I really have no idea which off the top of my head. But it basically says that you can't put requirements on getting a job that the job itself wouldn't ABSOLUTELY require you to do. Everyone throws that example around all the time and nobody knows how wrong it actually is. I was working for a store and the manager said that to one girl they were interviewing - "Can you lift 50 pounds? you have to be able to lift 50 pounds for this job" (she was applying to work in floral arranging) that was pretty ridiculous.
If the requirements do (say, having to have a highschool diploma to be a ditch digger, or having to be able lift 50 pounds to drive a UPS truck when you don't HAVE to lift 50 pounds, unassisted, on a regular basis...dollies/ramps/all sorts of aids to help you do that) then they are invalid and the test itself discriminates against those that can't. It's illegal.
You don't have to "dead lift" 50 pounds to be a UPS driver, you have to be able to maneuver a 50 pound box with the help of dollies, ramps and sometimes, even a partner. Lots of people CAN "dead lift" 50 pounds who are UPS workers, and that's awesome for them, but no, it's not a requirement.
Should a mostly deaf person not be allowed to go medical school because they can't hear anything without their hearing aids? What about someone whose missing an arm?
Lots of people CAN get through medical school just going to classes and studying the way they've always studied, but that's not a requirement either. There are resources. It's a shame the OP either didn't have them available or didn't know they needed them until too late.
Most of my classmates have to do something twice MAYBE three times (a few lucky ones only have to do it once), I have to read something 4, maybe 5 sometimes 6 times before it sticks. My grades are average. I work VERY hard. Does that mean I'm less qualified to be a physician then the guy who gets it all after one read through? Does that mean I should be thrown out on my @$$??? I hope not. I could EASILY have seen my grades going the "other way" if I hadn't figured the type of problem I was having out early in my first year. I'm LUCKY I figured out how to adjust my studying approach.
I feel for you OP, I really do. One of my best friends in my class took a leave of absence after failing two classes our first semester, and hasn't come back. She would have been an amazing physician, a much better one then a lot of people who ARE "making it", I think.
I wish you the absolute best of luck. If this is what you want to do , figure out what you need to do to to do it. I think it was ShyRem who mentioned how kaplan and sylvan do programs for kids with learning disabilities, I'm not sure they have them for adults but, if you have a college near by, enroll there (if you can, even for one class) and use their student services dept. A lot of times they have psychologists on staff and professionals who can really help you figure out what's what in terms of how YOU need to best process information.