lostinthesauce12
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Hii my situation is like this: I was recently accepted off the waitlist for DukeMed, before which I had initially planned to attend UTSW as an OOS student. My boyfriend is a current MS2 at UTSW, and we've been dating for about 3 years (1 in-person, 2 long-distance). I'm currently debating where I should go for medical school because I feel like I'm basically choosing between my relationship and my career(?)
Duke
Pros
Cons
UTSW
Pros
Cons
Comparing the med school curriculums, I definitely prefer Duke but I realize that if I attend Duke it'll be challenging for my relationship to continue since my bf and I cannot couple match and UTSW & Duke are located very far apart. With no guarantee that we'll end up in the same place for residency + med school is busy = it'll be even harder to continue long-distance as we are currently doing.
If I attend UTSW, it'll be easier for both of us to match back into UTSW. However, I'm afraid that I'm being naively optimistic by underestimating the difficulty of matching back into UTSW if I attend UTSW (ideally we would both stay at UTSW for residency and not have to do long-distance again).
I tentatively decided to go to UTSW (haven't officially committed yet), but now I'm afraid that I might regret it in the future (I was looking through DukeMed's Instagram accounts and thinking about what could have been). That said, I also really don't wanna give up my relationship either because I see a future (e.g marriage) with my bf. Regardless, please let me know what you think!
Duke
Pros
- Higher ranking so might be better for competitive specialties (I'm interested in derm)
- True P/F grading for preclinicals (no AOA)
- P/F grading for clinical (although I heard that residency programs can still see comments from clinicals)
- Dedicated three years of research so good for competitive specialties
- Big college campus vibes (e.g lots of facilities, a nice gym, etc.)
- Students in each graduating year all seemed really close (smaller class size)
Cons
- Basically no true connections to the area
- Heard that Durham is very college-town (would prefer a more "real" city environment)
- Durham is not super diverse?
- Test every other Monday during MS1 = stress (although it is P/F)
- Would have to do long distance with my bf for a VERY long time (assuming we don't attend the same residency program)
UTSW
Pros
- I'll be with my boyfriend for at least 2 years, which is a huge emotional support (don't have other family otherwise)
- Already familiar with the area and know people at the school
- Strong matching back into the home program (would be nice to match back into UTSW for dermatology)
- Dallas is a pretty nice city
- Everything is TX is hella cheap so I'm saving that $$$
Cons
- Independent medical center so there aren't as many facilities for students (e.g worse gym, library, etc.)
- P/F preclinicals but grades matter for AOA
- Graded clinicals (honors system)
- My boyfriend might match somewhere else in two years in which we would have to do long-distance again (he is trying to match optho)
Comparing the med school curriculums, I definitely prefer Duke but I realize that if I attend Duke it'll be challenging for my relationship to continue since my bf and I cannot couple match and UTSW & Duke are located very far apart. With no guarantee that we'll end up in the same place for residency + med school is busy = it'll be even harder to continue long-distance as we are currently doing.
If I attend UTSW, it'll be easier for both of us to match back into UTSW. However, I'm afraid that I'm being naively optimistic by underestimating the difficulty of matching back into UTSW if I attend UTSW (ideally we would both stay at UTSW for residency and not have to do long-distance again).
I tentatively decided to go to UTSW (haven't officially committed yet), but now I'm afraid that I might regret it in the future (I was looking through DukeMed's Instagram accounts and thinking about what could have been). That said, I also really don't wanna give up my relationship either because I see a future (e.g marriage) with my bf. Regardless, please let me know what you think!