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Hi everyone, I am only a second year medical student and nowhere near residency application. I am simply curious about how other people have decided between staying in the same location as their significant other vs. breaking up and moving far away to go to a better residency program.
I am 24 and he is 25. Lately my boyfriend and I have been talking about getting married at the end of medical school. I am very excited and I look forward to this. Getting married is my most important life goal, and I think that I will never meet someone as compatible as him. Also, we dated for 6 years so we practically grew up together. We are both located in the same city right now, after doing 3 years of long distance in the past. I am in medical school and he is in law school, and we will graduate in the same year. Fortunately there are many many hospitals that have internal medicine residency here (my goal), and I will be happy to do residency in my medical school's hospital. Long distance was an awful experience for both of us, so I certainly will not do long distance again. If I match away from my boyfriend then I will have to break up.
I do not go to a top 40 medical school, and I am an above average student in my class. Maybe even top 25%. I am worried that I may not be able to match into a prestigious program if I limit my residency application to a certain location, just so I can pursue my personal life. Also in a way, I worry that I am not being ambitious enough. When I was in undergrad, I cared more about ranking and prestige, but now I think about other things like geographic location and marriage...
Any comments for how you decided between staying in the same location as your significant other vs. breaking up and moving far away to go to a better residency program?
Any comments for how you decided between staying in the same location as your significant other vs. breaking up and moving far away to go to a better residency program?
OK so the reason why I don't want him to relocate is because staying in the current location will be best for his law career. I want him to have the best career opportunity as possible without me dragging him down. Long distance will never work out for us because we would be too unhappy, so the next logical step is to break up if we end up separated for residency. This has nothing to do with how much we love each other or how serious we are.
OK so the reason why I don't want him to relocate is because staying in the current location will be best for his law career. I want him to have the best career opportunity as possible without me dragging him down. Long distance will never work out for us because we would be too unhappy, so the next logical step is to break up if we end up separated for residency. This has nothing to do with how much we love each other or how serious we are.
I am worried that on my end, I may not be able to match into a good internal medicine residency program in the same location, because my medical school is not a top 40 and I probably won't score above 250 step 1 (I started studying for it already b/c it's the one thing I have total control over. Taking it at end of May). I heard from people this week that medical school ranking strongly determines which residency you can go to, so I may have to expand residency application to other areas in the country, and rank programs without considering his location.
OK so the reason why I don't want him to relocate is because staying in the current location will be best for his law career. I want him to have the best career opportunity as possible without me dragging him down. Long distance will never work out for us because we would be too unhappy, so the next logical step is to break up if we end up separated for residency. This has nothing to do with how much we love each other or how serious we are.
I am worried that on my end, I may not be able to match into a good internal medicine residency program in the same location, because my medical school is not a top 40 and I probably won't score above 250 step 1 (I started studying for it already b/c it's the one thing I have total control over. Taking it at end of May). I heard from people this week that medical school ranking strongly determines which residency you can go to, so I may have to expand residency application to other areas in the country, and rank programs without considering his location.
Boyfriends aren’t worth career changing decisions. Husbands are.
If he hasn’t proposed yet, with a definited marriage date set, then you apply like a single person and rank accordingly.
If he’s a husband then you can rank to attempt to accomodate him and if the match goes sideways he moves as soon as he can to join you
My wife’s geographical needs changed my rank list significantly