You are an idiot, good sir.
You know absolutely nothing about me (my background, my socioeconomic status, my experiences with various cultures, etc.). I feel 100% comfortable around any culture (regardless if they speak incorrect or correct English). I don't speak Ebonics, but I understand it just like I understand the chopped up English of my friend who's from Hong Kong.
You outright said that you are uncomfortable in every day life as a URM. You need to makeup your mind.
But, you are right. I know nothing of your personal background or your socioeconomic status but your previous post illuminated possible experiences with other cultures and your "comfort level" around them.
And, I never said I couldn't understand people speaking ebonics, where did that implication come from?
And I've often been told that I'm one of the "good ones like Oprah Winfrey" by people just like you because I have a very non-threatening/non-militant/super-feminine air.
While I'd agree that whoever said that to you chose their words very poorly, compare that to being called an evil oppressing racist whom is responsible for all of the bad in the world. Not comparable. Don't feel sorry for yourself, everybody has bad experiences and while yours was very odd and likely upsetting because it exposes an underlying culture clash, its hardly mean-spirited or traumatizing. I get to sit through classes where I am essentially taught that I am part of plague: "the white plague."
Your attitude reeks of arrogance and disdain towards people you regard as "inferior" --> those who do not adopt your European culture.
Just because you're insecure doesn't mean that I'm "really" arrogant. You're projecting the world around you the way you want to see it, and you're eating yourself up over it. I pity your feelings than anything. And, I don't think people who don't adopt the dominant US culture are inferior, that's ridiculous. Quit putting words in my mouth.
I do, however, think that considering there IS a culture that is dominant in the world of the white collar worker it is a very poor choice not to integrate / learn how to effectively associate with people of that culture. Its not racist for an employer not to want to hire somebody if there is a substantial difference in communication between this prospective worker and those to whom said worker will be communicating. E.g. people get pissed when they call HP Computer Support and get someone from India, so there has been a recent trend where companies are NOT doing this anymore despite the extra costs incurred. Its not b/c anybody is racist against Indians.
The point that I was trying to make is that URMs do not have the LUXURY to have a comfort zone like you do.
Yes you do. If you didn't have a luxury of a comfort zone I wouldn't ever be in a situation where I'm the racial and cultural minority. And, being from Southern California that happens to me quite frequently. In addition, you previously admitted to having a "comfort zone" when you said you leave that comfort zone. YOU personally may not have a comfort zone because I get the impression that you identify yourself as more connected to people of your own race, but that doesn't seem to be where society designates you. I'm no psychologist, but that's what I've gotten out of this whole conversation.
I've grown up being the only person of color in AP classes, having my accomplishments questioned, etc.
Well, unfortunately URMs are given leeway and benefits where others aren't, and some people are resentful. Until there are no double standards there will always be resent, and its a necessary evil right now. There aren't enough URM physicians, teachers, etc and non-URM physicians, teachers, etc are very unlikely to go practice in heavily URM areas for a number of reasons, so we need these policies.
This is a problem that can only be fixed from within the community. The amount of money thrown at URM school districts with lower performance is mind-boggling, and its not helping the situation because many of these URM "cultures" do not seem to value education like some of the, for example, ORM minorities do.
If I didn't have a disturbingly good understanding of how "passion" can make an intelligent person make non-sensical arguments, I'd be tempted to question respond to your first comment of your post by insulting your intelligence. But, in all honesty you communicate yourself well, and I'm sure you're a smart woman, so I'm sorry if you've been unjustly accused of having been "given" things you earned fair and square, and I can understand your frustration.
I have adopted the practices of both cultures, but you expect minorities to assimilate to the "dominant" White culture which is sooooo idiotic.
The way you keep quoting and referring to "dominant" culture, it appears you're obviously misinterpreting what it means. Dominant means prevailing, not that its "superior" as you've so often implied I was saying. And I never said I "expect" minorities to adopt the dominant culture; I just said it would be a good idea considering if there is a "majority" that's where the "majority" of the jobs/interactions will be! And, adopting a culture doesn't mean that you have to let go of another. I know plenty of people who have very strong ethnic cultures and are very in tune with the dominant US culture, as you say you have.
I addressed the issue of assimilation above.
So what if your "friends"
have been called an Uncle Tom? I've been called one before (probably many others on this sub-forum have as well). HOWEVER, I realize the roots of those accusations...
the pain that the person is really trying to convey...and I don't look down on my people for accusing me as such nor do I run towards the arms of the Great White Hope to save me from mean colored people.
Do you? Have you ever even considered that what was said was mean spirited, not a painful expression, and that the person calling you an uncle tom likely had no idea what the roots of the accusation are? I would be willing to bet 100:1 that most people throwing those ignorant words around have no idea ,and that you're, again, creating a world that doesn't exist.
And LOL @ your girlfriend being Vietnamese. I knew by the way you were replying that your girlfriend would either be Latina or Asian.
I wonder if she has an accent.
I knew you'd say this due to your lame, pointless remark in your last post. Very pointless, and very pathetic. I don't know how that even came up in the first place.
And LOL @ the "some of my best friends are minorities" type response.
Well, due to hypersensitive people like yourself it is unfortunate that often us white people have to constantly go out of our way to reassure people that we're not racist for saying something that they don't want to hear.
Note: I'm a girl so don't refer to me as "him".
P.S. Nice muscles.
Well, my apologies, "her".
And, the muscles are mostly gone at the moment. Too much going on in my life to keep up that kind of eating/training lifestyle.
