So I was concurring that if in fact thats the way you handle interactions with colleagues in person, then that may present a problem.
well, jet, all i can say is that i don't blanketly agree with people for the sake of agreeing, especially if i disagree (haha). throughout my four years of residency, my evaluations have reflected someone who is occassionally adept at "telling others what they already know" to great teacher to leader. i've never been called "dangerous" or "attitude/arrogant" or "perceived ability exceeds actual ability" or anything of the like. and, i've always been the guy who's not afraid to tell the emperor that he's not wearing any clothes. some people don't like that, i'll admit. but, i'll soon be 43-years-old and it's not likely that i'm going to change now.
all i know is that i'm frequently singled-out as the "go to" guy by fellow residents and even attendings. as a result, i have a very long leash. i've never, in my four years, written anyone up. i deal with conflict face-to-face, and mostly i'm respected for that (although clearly sometimes people can't handle their faults and mistakes pointed out to them... at least i hope they can respect the fact that it's not done in a chicken-s**t way by being handed to them on a piece of paper that goes into their permanent file).
but, i feel strongly that this is what medicine desperately needs now. people who are willing to stand-up and put the patient first. likewise, i recognize good work point out when people do a great job, from the guy who buffs the floor to the cashier in the cafeteria to the nursing student who just put in her first i.v. on a forum, there's not as much time or opportunity to always do that. and, controversial posts are the ones that get the most attention (i can't change human nature either).
so, if you don't always like my candor, i can't help that. consider it a reality check. but, don't miss the point either. on this forum, i respect many of my attending colleagues accomplishments and what they've already given to the field. but, just because you've achieved, don't get lulled into the belief that what you say is "the right way" or that your ideas and comments can't be challenged. maybe i'm like that guy in your former practice, and perhaps i do enjoy at times being adversarial. but, it is done mostly in order to be thought-provoking. and, maybe that guy in your practice was the same way and you just focused on the apparently confrontational parts of his personality.
just know that, in the end, if you say something good or right, or do something good or right, it is only my
opinion that is speaking back to you. if i agree with you, it doesn't make you (or me) right. it is only one person's
opinion that is talking. likewise, if i disagree, it doesn't necessarily mean that you are wrong.
just know that none of us opens our mouths and has "the gospel" spill out. it seems lately that there have been more than a few members of this forum who erroneously believe the opposite to be true. expect to be challenged, just as i expect it, if you come here to play.
that is all.