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Hi everyone,
I was wondering if I could get some advice about a certain recent event that has happened in my life. My boyfriend/fiancee has recently given me an ultimatum...either going to a medical school in a place where he will be (at a school I don't really want to go to) and get married or going to the school I love and really want to go to which will be farther away and thus he will deem it impossible to have a relationship and so I would be without him. In my mind, it could work out with me going to the school I love and it would only set us back like 2-3 years (I could do my rotations where he is at). He doesn't want to wait. He says if I loved him, I would go be with him as soon as possible and not wait. I believe if he loved me, he would want to wait for me to finish my life's dream. I love him and he loves me, but he says it's not enough. I want to make both things work, but since he's giving me an ultimatum, he's making me choose between the two. Anyway, I missed the deadline for making the deposit for the school that he wants me to go to and he's trying to get me to ask for an exception and an extension (although I'm doing this half-heartedly). Anyone have any thoughts or been through similar experiences? I've started feeling alone and depressed about this lately and I don't really know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated.
I was wondering if I could get some advice about a certain recent event that has happened in my life. My boyfriend/fiancee has recently given me an ultimatum...either going to a medical school in a place where he will be (at a school I don't really want to go to) and get married or going to the school I love and really want to go to which will be farther away and thus he will deem it impossible to have a relationship and so I would be without him. In my mind, it could work out with me going to the school I love and it would only set us back like 2-3 years (I could do my rotations where he is at). He doesn't want to wait. He says if I loved him, I would go be with him as soon as possible and not wait. I believe if he loved me, he would want to wait for me to finish my life's dream. I love him and he loves me, but he says it's not enough. I want to make both things work, but since he's giving me an ultimatum, he's making me choose between the two. Anyway, I missed the deadline for making the deposit for the school that he wants me to go to and he's trying to get me to ask for an exception and an extension (although I'm doing this half-heartedly). Anyone have any thoughts or been through similar experiences? I've started feeling alone and depressed about this lately and I don't really know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated.