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Hey all...
Here's my situation (sounds similar to that of several of you)...
I have been with my serious boyfriend for almost a year (although we have been friends for longer)....and I am reapplying to medical school for Fall of 2004. While I know that adjusting to med school and marriage will be difficult, I don;t want to wait 4 years to get married (which is exactly what my family is pushing me to do, saying that he will be too much of a "distraction" and I'll fail.)
They tell me, "If he truly loved you, he'd wait for 4 years" At this point, we know this is it, and we are committed (which is the reason why we got together in the first place...we knew this was the one we wanted to marry) 1 year is not a long time compared tto some, but sometimes you just...know.
However, I can't imagine a possible LDR for four years!!! Am I wrong to think this?? And for me, living together without being married is not an option.
I think I should spend the first year adjusting to med school, then get married sometime before/during second year. Is this feasible?? My mom (who was a doctor in the old country) will hit the ceiling...but I know it can be done (thanks to you guys)
What are the advantages of coming home to someone other than your roommate or immediate family during these difficult years??
Are these people "doomed to fail" like my mother tries to tell me?
Here's my situation (sounds similar to that of several of you)...
I have been with my serious boyfriend for almost a year (although we have been friends for longer)....and I am reapplying to medical school for Fall of 2004. While I know that adjusting to med school and marriage will be difficult, I don;t want to wait 4 years to get married (which is exactly what my family is pushing me to do, saying that he will be too much of a "distraction" and I'll fail.)
They tell me, "If he truly loved you, he'd wait for 4 years" At this point, we know this is it, and we are committed (which is the reason why we got together in the first place...we knew this was the one we wanted to marry) 1 year is not a long time compared tto some, but sometimes you just...know.
However, I can't imagine a possible LDR for four years!!! Am I wrong to think this?? And for me, living together without being married is not an option.
I think I should spend the first year adjusting to med school, then get married sometime before/during second year. Is this feasible?? My mom (who was a doctor in the old country) will hit the ceiling...but I know it can be done (thanks to you guys)
What are the advantages of coming home to someone other than your roommate or immediate family during these difficult years??
Are these people "doomed to fail" like my mother tries to tell me?