Tiredmom -
I had the same questions as you did. I am opposed to elective abortions. If you didnt want to be pregnant you shouldn't have had sex....end of discussion....deal with the consequences. (sorry...had to vent). I know that this may be an uncommon opinion for a future Ob/Gyn, but thats what it is and that is what I am sticking too.
No, I'm still steamed and have to respond to this. That is an ignorant comment. I spent a month this spring working at Planned Parenthood and one of the patients I will remember for the rest of my life is a 24 year old girl who burst into tears when her pregnancy test came back positive. She told us that she had diligently tried every birth control method under the sun and this was her third unintended pregnancy and unfortunately she would have to get her third abortion because she just wasn't ready to have children yet. She was devastated. Would you tell this woman that she "shouldn't be having sex?" I walked away from that month certain of one thing: every birth control method that we have available today fails. You cannot tell people they shouldn't be having sex, and you cannot tell them they have to bear a child when it is not the right time in their life, for whatever reason. Yes, people make mistakes. But there is a second piece to this problem. Contraception is not perfect, and even the most responsible people find themselves in a very difficult situation and have to make the best decision for themselves at that point in their life.
You do not ever have to perform an abortion if you don't want to. But if you carry around that judgment that only irresponsible people get abortions, you will be doing many of your patients a disservice and subjecting them to shame that they do not deserve.