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HI everyone,
Im not quite sure if this is the best place to post this, nevertheless I need someone to hear me out because unfortunately I am not making things any easier for myself.
My boyfriend of nearly 2 years has recently moved out of state for Pharm School. I support him 110% and am truly glad that he has decided to pursue his true inkling. However, since his move there has been a few things that have truly bothered me... his surrounding friends.
Okay I know that jealousy is a factor in all relationships and its soothed by trust and reassurrancee. Problem is, his circle of friends is predominantly woman and he's a very friendly individual. I trust him yet somehow I cannot put my heart to rest, ,when I hear that hes going to spend some time with them. I know that he is in a different state and granted having no close family or friends around, these ladies in his pharm class are his close friends. However, I have informed him that although I do not mind occasional hangouts, there are some things i really do not want him to participate in with him. One being... clubbing/drinking til early morning. I know everyone has different perceptions of what influence a gf or bf has on their significant other but in my opinion, I've always thought that going to a club w.out your girlfriend/boyfriend and in the company of the opposite sex... is WRONG.
Yes I admit it is it is a bit of jealousy that drives my anger here, but what hurts more is that I've told him that I am not or could ever be comfy with him doing that and he still went ahead and did it and expects me to just be okay with it....
could i be overacting and should just learn to trust him and get over the jealousy act? and why is it such a hard concept to accept?
Im not quite sure if this is the best place to post this, nevertheless I need someone to hear me out because unfortunately I am not making things any easier for myself.
My boyfriend of nearly 2 years has recently moved out of state for Pharm School. I support him 110% and am truly glad that he has decided to pursue his true inkling. However, since his move there has been a few things that have truly bothered me... his surrounding friends.
Okay I know that jealousy is a factor in all relationships and its soothed by trust and reassurrancee. Problem is, his circle of friends is predominantly woman and he's a very friendly individual. I trust him yet somehow I cannot put my heart to rest, ,when I hear that hes going to spend some time with them. I know that he is in a different state and granted having no close family or friends around, these ladies in his pharm class are his close friends. However, I have informed him that although I do not mind occasional hangouts, there are some things i really do not want him to participate in with him. One being... clubbing/drinking til early morning. I know everyone has different perceptions of what influence a gf or bf has on their significant other but in my opinion, I've always thought that going to a club w.out your girlfriend/boyfriend and in the company of the opposite sex... is WRONG.
Yes I admit it is it is a bit of jealousy that drives my anger here, but what hurts more is that I've told him that I am not or could ever be comfy with him doing that and he still went ahead and did it and expects me to just be okay with it....
could i be overacting and should just learn to trust him and get over the jealousy act? and why is it such a hard concept to accept?