I'm well into my first month of med school at a T10 and I ask myself why I'm here every single day. I got multiple acceptances and am able to attend a great program near my family. I was so excited when it all started because I had been dreaming of starting med school and working nonstop towards this goal since high school. I didn't even think I'd get one A because so many people had always doubted me let alone 10+ As from T30 programs. It felt like I had finally crossed some sort of a finish line, and while I knew that it would only get harder from here, at least I could say after so many hard nights, a few tears here and there, and incessant grind I was finally where I was supposed to be.
Except, now I don't know if this is what I'm supposed to be doing with my life. I spend all day, every day studying. Once med school started, I had to give up modeling as I can't randomly fly to cities for shoots. I graduated with a 3.9 in undergrad and used to go out with friends at least once a week, fly out to different cities to take weekend trips, and was able to be super involved with my sorority and other extracurriculars I cared about. Im used to going out in big cities with tables and bottle service. The lifestyle I used to live has gone up in smoke.
I didn't have a lot of premed friends in undergrad as they were mostly all business majors. Now I see them all in NYC, Miami, Chicago, etc. living their best lives and I wonder if I want to spend the next 4 years of my life and then 3 more for residency after that not being able to do any of the fun things I enjoy like traveling and living in a big city just so I can study every single day to eventually become a doctor. I think about how I'll be 29 when I'm finally done with residency. Is giving up the prime years of my life from 22-29 worth it? Would I be happier if I just worked a 9-5 in a big city and was able to have a social life versus having to give up all the things I did for fun.
It's just confusing because I used to pray every single day for the opportunity to start medical school to be a doctor. Even though I have an amazing support system here, I feel like I'm sacrificing so much for something that is just going to be a job at the end of the day. I question if I even will enjoy practicing medicine after all the horror stories I’ve heard of burnt out physicians and my observations while I worked as a medical assistant at a hospital during my gap year. I know people say you have to find balance with your schedule, but I’m having to change my lifestyle so much. And everyone I’ve talked to who has also been on the med journey says it only gets worse and you only get busier.
So I’m writing this/reaching out hoping someone can offer me some advice on how I can acclimate better to this change or maybe find that balance with my workload. Will it get better after the first month? I don’t want to sit down every day to study only to ask myself what’s the point. Do other students in med school actually enjoy studying and therefore enjoy med school? So many of my peers seem so fascinated by the material we are learning. I just want to get through it. I’ll do well, but it’s not something I want to do. I see how passionate everyone around me is about their future careers as physicians, and I feel out of place because I don't share that same excitement anymore. Their lives revolve around med school and this opportunity. I don't want that. I want my identity as a doctor to be supplemental to my other identities, not overwhelm my whole person. Will I eventually be able to manage my workload better so I do have time for things I enjoy?
I feel like I could be doing so much more in terms of activities that I actually enjoy and be so much happier working an ordinary job to have time for my own life versus signing away my life for this degree. I can’t drop out because there really is nothing else I would rather do in terms of work. This was a goal of mine for so long, and I poured everything into the journey to get this far.
Except, now I don't know if this is what I'm supposed to be doing with my life. I spend all day, every day studying. Once med school started, I had to give up modeling as I can't randomly fly to cities for shoots. I graduated with a 3.9 in undergrad and used to go out with friends at least once a week, fly out to different cities to take weekend trips, and was able to be super involved with my sorority and other extracurriculars I cared about. Im used to going out in big cities with tables and bottle service. The lifestyle I used to live has gone up in smoke.
I didn't have a lot of premed friends in undergrad as they were mostly all business majors. Now I see them all in NYC, Miami, Chicago, etc. living their best lives and I wonder if I want to spend the next 4 years of my life and then 3 more for residency after that not being able to do any of the fun things I enjoy like traveling and living in a big city just so I can study every single day to eventually become a doctor. I think about how I'll be 29 when I'm finally done with residency. Is giving up the prime years of my life from 22-29 worth it? Would I be happier if I just worked a 9-5 in a big city and was able to have a social life versus having to give up all the things I did for fun.
It's just confusing because I used to pray every single day for the opportunity to start medical school to be a doctor. Even though I have an amazing support system here, I feel like I'm sacrificing so much for something that is just going to be a job at the end of the day. I question if I even will enjoy practicing medicine after all the horror stories I’ve heard of burnt out physicians and my observations while I worked as a medical assistant at a hospital during my gap year. I know people say you have to find balance with your schedule, but I’m having to change my lifestyle so much. And everyone I’ve talked to who has also been on the med journey says it only gets worse and you only get busier.
So I’m writing this/reaching out hoping someone can offer me some advice on how I can acclimate better to this change or maybe find that balance with my workload. Will it get better after the first month? I don’t want to sit down every day to study only to ask myself what’s the point. Do other students in med school actually enjoy studying and therefore enjoy med school? So many of my peers seem so fascinated by the material we are learning. I just want to get through it. I’ll do well, but it’s not something I want to do. I see how passionate everyone around me is about their future careers as physicians, and I feel out of place because I don't share that same excitement anymore. Their lives revolve around med school and this opportunity. I don't want that. I want my identity as a doctor to be supplemental to my other identities, not overwhelm my whole person. Will I eventually be able to manage my workload better so I do have time for things I enjoy?
I feel like I could be doing so much more in terms of activities that I actually enjoy and be so much happier working an ordinary job to have time for my own life versus signing away my life for this degree. I can’t drop out because there really is nothing else I would rather do in terms of work. This was a goal of mine for so long, and I poured everything into the journey to get this far.
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